A message I got last night.
I only wanted to share this, to explain how quickly men can get the wrong idea.
Are used to host a TikTok live almost nightly. I was growing a following and had viewers and subscribers who would come watch everyday and support my page.
I didn’t do anything special. It was just a casual, “life live stream” doing normal stuff.
Most of my watchers were men , but the community that I grew was super cool. Everyone had really cool ideas and thoughts, and it wasn’t all just about my looks or body. They each grew connections and and friendships with each other other too, it was a actual super nice community.
After a few months, things started to get a bit toxic. I was getting messaged every day multiple people, everyone was asking for Snapchat or a phone number and wanted “to know me more.”
I had no problem with that but I only gave my number out to select people. Over that time. It seemed like people would get very clingy and always wanted me on live.
Unfortunately, it just wasn’t working for me anymore. Tik Toks didn’t seem to push my content, and I was getting reported by old “friends” alot who I would notice would join the live, and then all of a sudden I was getting notifications that I was banned. It just got exhausting; it was clear that some people didn’t want me on social media and I started to not want to be there myself.
When I stopped going live one of the guys who had my phone number asked me why I had — I explained to him that I wasn’t gonna be doing it anymore for personal reasons, that would be an explanation, but it wasn’t.
I explained to him that I won’t be answering anymore. Text messages, unless family related. We never talked consistently anyways, we would chat here and there but just on a “how are ya” basis. Never flirty or anything relationship related. I even explicitly mentioned I’m not looking for anybody.
— he continue to spam messaged me, between 10pm-2am. I deleted those messages, and went on with my day. He then spammed me again the next day.
I ignored it again, because this is a grown man and he heard what I said. He called me 3 times one night and kept saying he was checking if I blocked him.
This morning, I woke up to these text messages. Reading these at 5 AM is exhausting. And I cannot stress how much I do not appreciate it after I explained my need for solitude and he is now blocked! I don’t know why I didn’t do it before.. I just didn’t think it would have to result in that
In the world of social media, building connections can be both fulfilling and challenging. While it’s great to engage with viewers and forge a community, boundaries are crucial as interactions can easily turn overwhelming. The pressure from audiences to maintain a constant presence can lead to a stressful experience, especially if expectations are misaligned. Many creators can relate to the feeling of being inundated with messages after live streams. These communications, often well-intentioned, can become burdensome when they escalate into clinginess or demands for more personal engagement. Setting boundaries, like limiting interactions to family or close friends, is necessary for preserving mental wellbeing. Moreover, the issue of toxicity in online communities has gained increasing attention. Users must be vigilant about their digital environments. Too often, connections made in good faith can shift unpredictably, leading to conflicts or unwanted attention, as seen in numerous TikTok experiences. To maintain a healthy online presence, creators should prioritize their comfort and peace of mind. Acknowledging the fine line between engagement and invasion is key. Deleting messages or blocking certain users may seem harsh, but it can ultimately be a vital step in safeguarding one's mental space. Ultimately, creators should feel empowered to curate their online experiences, reminding them that their well-being comes first. By sharing stories and discussing these dynamics, we can foster more respectful community interactions.
It's crucial to set clear boundaries in online interactions. It's okay to step back for personal peace and block those who don't respect your space. Your well-being comes first.🥰