4 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before Having Twins

When I found out I was having twins, I spent hours searching for advice from other twin moms.

Some things I expected. A lot of things I didn’t.

These are four things I genuinely wish someone had told me before bringing my boys home. None of them are groundbreaking but they would’ve made me feel a little less alone.

If you’re expecting twins (or already in the thick of it), I hope this reminds you that you’re doing better than you think.

What would you add to this list? I’d love to hear your best twin mom advice in the comments so we can help another mama scrolling by. #twinmom #identicaltwins #motherhood

7/15 Edited to

... Read moreHaving twins is one of the most rewarding yet challenging experiences a mother can face. From my own journey and the shared experiences of other twin moms, I’ve learned that embracing flexibility and patience is key. One of the biggest surprises was the sheer amount of laundry. It’s not just double – it feels like an endless cycle. Finding a good laundry routine early can help reduce stress and give you one less thing to worry about. Another important lesson is understanding your babies’ individual timelines, especially if they require NICU care. Adjusted age is crucial to keep in mind to avoid unhealthy comparisons. Every baby develops at their own pace, and celebrating each small milestone can bring joy amidst the chaos. Self-care isn’t a luxury when you have twins; it’s a necessity. Even short breaks, like quick showers or moments to breathe, recharge your energy so you can be present for your little ones. Remember, survival mode is still parenting, and giving yourself grace is important. Lastly, never hesitate to accept help. Twin parenting is not something you have to do alone. Whether it’s giving family or friends small tasks or simply accepting a break, sharing the workload lightens the emotional and physical load. If you are a twin mom or expecting, connect with others through communities and hashtags like #twinmom and #motherhood to exchange advice and support. Every twin journey is unique, but sharing experiences helps us all feel less alone and more empowered.

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