Is my “Dear Mom” broken?

It's truly incredible how grief can evolve over time, yet some feelings remain, especially when it's been three years since your mum passed. I've found that even after all this time, there are days when the 'Dear Mom' connection feels incredibly raw, almost broken, and that's okay. It’s a testament to the profound love we shared and the irreplaceable role she played in your life. Don't ever feel like you 'should' be over it; grief has its own timeline, unique to everyone. I've learned to create my own rituals to keep her memory alive and to nurture that 'Dear Mom' bond. Sometimes, it’s as simple as buying a vibrant bouquet of her favorite flowers and placing them where I can see them every day, a visual reminder of her presence and the beauty she brought into the world. Other times, I find immense comfort in looking through old photos, remembering her infectious smile and the warmth of her hugs. I even have a special place where I keep a small memento, like a little yellow character holding a pink heart, that reminds me of her loving spirit and gentle nature. These aren't just objects; they're anchors to cherished memories, helping to bridge the gap that absence creates. I think of it as my personal 'Dear Mom' memory project. It’s not a contest to win, but a profound way to 'POST With LOVE. Win With Memories.' for myself and my family. Sharing stories with loved ones, writing letters I'll never send to her, or just spending quiet moments reflecting on her wisdom and the lessons she taught me – these acts help me feel connected and keep her spirit close. On difficult days, I might listen to her favorite music, cook a dish she loved, or revisit places that held special meaning for us. It’s about honoring her legacy and acknowledging that the love never truly fades, even if the pain sometimes resurfaces. For anyone navigating this journey three years on, remember that healing isn't linear, and it's absolutely okay to still feel her absence deeply. It’s a sign of the deep love you shared. Allow yourself to feel all the emotions – sadness, anger, nostalgia, and even joy when remembering happy times. Don't be afraid to talk about her, to cry, or to laugh at shared memories. Find supportive communities, whether online or in person, where you can share your feelings without judgment. Remember to be gentle with yourself. You're not alone in feeling that precious bond, even if it feels 'broken' sometimes, is still very much a part of you. This enduring connection is a gift, and finding ways to cherish it is part of your continued healing journey, transforming grief into enduring love.