How I Survived As A Single Mom
Being a mom is ready tough! Being a single mom is no joke! Here are 7 things that helped me during my journey! I hope it helps at least one person!
01. Your baby comes first!
Easier said than done, right? Here's something that helped me realize this more. If someone makes me uncomfortable, my baby feels that and in turn they are uncomfortable. My son would cry for 20-30 minutes after certain people would leave because he had all my tension. Don't let them around you or your baby! If they disrespected you as the mother of your child, they don't respect your child.
02. Don't try to save face!
I tried to be the peacemaker in the beginning and make sure everyone was happy and nothing was awkward. Do you know where that got me? NOWHERE! Don't be the peacemaker. Speak the truth and stand on it.
03. Take care of yourself!
How can you take care of your babt if you don't take care of yourself. Be the best version of yourself for your baby! Take a shower!
04. If they want to leave, let them!
Never force someone to be in your childs life. It hurts your child. If they want to leave, hope the door hits them on the way out. They are going to miss out on the most amazing part of life!
05. Set a routine!
This is what helped me the most because it gave me time to myself. I could do the dishes, watch a movie, paint my nails, take a shower, do my hair or makeup. Whatever it is, set a routine, allow yourself to still have you time!
06. Take pictures!
This might sound crazy, but trust me. My son is now 18 months old and there's some things I don't remember until I see pictures. Not many, but some. As a single mom, with 100% custody, you are in survival mode. Sometimes it's overwhelming and your body won't allow you to capture that moment internally so capture it physically!
07. Be patient!
I had no faith I would ever find someone to not only love me, but my son as their own. Things and life fall into place like a puzzle when you least expect it! Just like that, you find the man your baby deserves as their dad! The man who stepped up to complete your family!
Have faith always! Love you all!
Being a single mom can be extremely challenging, but many women find strength in community support and shared experiences. Consider joining local or online parenting groups where you can connect with others facing similar challenges. Sharing stories allows for emotional exchange and can introduce you to new coping strategies. Self-care is critical for single moms. Setting aside even a few minutes each day for personal time can significantly impact your wellbeing. Whether it’s exercising, reading, or simply enjoying a quiet cup of coffee, carving out this time can help restore your energy and focus. It's also beneficial to establish a strong support network. Family members, friends, and even neighbors can assist and provide respite when needed. Additionally, engaging with organizations dedicated to single parent support can provide valuable resources, including child care assistance and financial advice. Remember, patience is vital. Many single moms enter new relationships later, and it’s important to ensure any partner is a positive influence on your child. By taking a thoughtful approach, you can create a nurturing environment for both you and your child.
My son will be 10 in July and It’s been him and I since few months after conception. I love the advice you share here. I’d like to really emphasize the importance of keeping your child #1 priority. Dating took away too much precious time and attention away from my son when he was so young.