After a man swirled his tongue outside of his mouth at me four aggressive times hoping I would somehow be allured by it, I finally understand why so many people are currently single.
I had just asked my friend, how are you single?You’re gorgeous, heart is open, and have everything going for you…
And now I know why.
I am not even on the market so when this happens I’m basically a field reporter now and get to bring the intel back to my single friends. And the intel is grimmm
Men pursuing women used to be an art. There was finesse. There was moment-stopping eye contact that did not make you want to text someone your location as an SOS. Hitting on a woman is a skill, and somewhere along the way it became a lost art.
This questionable man looked at a woman who is clearly spoken for and decided his opening move was the tongue. Four times. I counted. At that point what else are you going to do but count.
I swear there is a universal knowing of what is creepy, and we all have the radar and it lives in the body. You do not need a definition. And that.. was creepy.
I also understand women have also become less approachable and even angry when being hit on nowadays, but that is literally because there are SO MANY CREEPS women have had to encounter on the daily. So to the men out there, the art is not lost. Please come back. Bring the confidence and genuine connection. Leave the circus turrets tongue at home. Thank u
From my own experiences, I’ve noticed that the landscape of dating has truly shifted. The old-school charm and respectful approach that used to define courtship now often feels replaced by awkward or even unsettling behaviors, like the one described with the man swirling his tongue aggressively. It’s clear that many women today have developed a strong intuition—or a 'creepy radar'—to protect themselves from unwanted advances. This widespread discomfort has likely contributed to why many people remain single despite being open and ready for a relationship. The key takeaway I’ve realized is that pursuing someone should always be about creating genuine connection and showing respect. Confidence without sincerity comes off as intimidating, or worse, off-putting. For men wanting to bring back the art of pursuit, focusing on active listening, meaningful conversation, and respectful body language can make all the difference. Women appreciate when someone shows interest thoughtfully rather than resorting to gimmicks or disrespectful actions. From a woman's perspective, feeling safe and valued is foundational. When a man approaches with authenticity and avoids overstepping boundaries, it transforms the interaction from a stressful encounter into a potential connection. So, while the dating world may feel daunting at times, bringing back these respectful and genuine courting practices can create a more positive experience for everyone involved. In summary, while the world of dating has its challenges, embracing old-fashioned respect paired with modern understanding could be the secret to successful relationships today. The lost art isn’t gone—it’s waiting to be revived by those willing to pursue with heart and authenticity.