... Read moreHey Lemon8 fam! 👋 I stumbled upon this quote the other day – 'A truly strong person does not need the approval from others any more than a lion needs the approval of a sheep.' V. Howard. And wow, did it hit me hard! For so long, I felt like I was constantly looking over my shoulder, waiting for someone else to validate my choices, my outfits, even my dreams. It was exhausting, honestly.
Think about it: a majestic lion, powerful and self-assured, doesn't spend a second worrying if the sheep in the field approve of its roar or its mane. It just *is*. That image really resonated with me, especially when I think about how much energy I used to pour into trying to fit in or please everyone around me.
Why do we do it? I think a lot of us are conditioned from a young age to seek praise and avoid criticism. We want to belong, to be liked, to feel accepted. But somewhere along the line, that desire for connection can morph into a desperate need for approval, and that's where we start losing ourselves. I realized my need for external validation was actually holding me back from being my most authentic self. It made me hesitant to try new things, to speak my mind, or even to dress how I truly wanted, because I was constantly running my ideas through an imaginary 'approval committee' in my head.
The truth is, genuine strength isn't about being universally loved or accepted. It's about knowing who you are, what you stand for, and trusting your own judgment. It's about having that quiet confidence, just like that lion. It's an inside job!
So, how do we cultivate this 'inner lion' and stop needing approval? For me, it started with a few small steps. First, I began practicing self-reflection: What do *I* truly want? What are my values? Not what my friends or family expect, but what genuinely makes me happy and fulfilled. Journaling has been a game-changer here!
Next, I started setting boundaries. This was tough, but so liberating! Learning to say 'no' to things that don't align with my goals or energy has freed up so much mental space. It's like telling yourself, 'My time and energy are valuable, and I get to decide how to spend them.'
Another big one is focusing on personal growth, not external accolades. Instead of aiming for praise, I now aim for progress. Did I learn something new today? Did I challenge myself? Did I stay true to my word? These internal metrics of success are far more empowering than waiting for someone else to pat me on the back.
And finally, celebrating small wins. Every time I make a decision based on my own intuition, or stand up for what I believe in, I acknowledge that moment. It reinforces the idea that my approval is the only one that truly matters.
It’s a journey, not a destination, but embracing the spirit of that majestic lion has truly transformed how I approach life. Are you ready to unleash your inner strength and live authentically? Let me know your thoughts!