Am I the only one who hates making new friends?

It’s like I am a great friend. I just hate putting in the effort when it comes to building friendships. That’s the part I lack at. I will ghost the friendship because of the smallest thing. I wouldn’t be mad or anything. I just prefer not to deal with it. Idk if it’s a trauma thing from past friendships or what.

#lemon8contest #AskLemon8 #findrealfriends #letschat #friendship

2025/9/1 Edited to

... Read moreMany people experience difficulties when it comes to making new friends, often feeling reluctant to invest the energy friendship requires. This hesitation can sometimes be linked to previous negative experiences or trauma that create emotional barriers. Ghosting friendships or avoiding conflicts might be a coping mechanism to protect oneself from potential hurt or disappointment. Friends often expect continuous effort, communication, and commitment, which can feel overwhelming for some individuals. Understanding these feelings is important, as not everyone’s social needs or communication styles are the same. Some may identify more as introverts, finding social interactions draining, while others might have unresolved issues from past relationships that make them wary of trusting new people. It is also possible that the fast pace of modern life contributes to the struggle, as time and energy for nurturing friendships become scarce. If you find yourself resonating with these sentiments, it can help to reflect on what you want from friendships and set boundaries that feel comfortable. Being honest with new connections about your social preferences can pave the way for more authentic and less stressful relationships. Additionally, seeking support through counseling or social skills groups might address underlying trauma impacting your ability to form connections. Ultimately, the experience of disliking making new friends is more common than many realize. Recognizing this can help reduce feelings of isolation and encourage those struggling to find strategies that work best for them in building meaningful friendships.

4 comments

Amoridere's images
Amoridere

I've given up on friendship, entirely

Chelsea Livian's images
Chelsea Livian

As an introvert, I’m with you. I hate putting in the work to make new friends. I lack the courage to go up to people and hold a conversation.

See more comments