Am I wrong for setting limits?
My best friend has a 2-year-old, and I’ve been there for her since day one baby showers, sleepless nights, even helping her move. I love her like family, but lately it feels like I’ve become her on-call babysitter.
She’ll text me last minute asking if she can “drop her daughter off for a quick errand,” but that quick errand turns into hours. Once she went out for “coffee” and came back five hours later. Another time I missed a movie with friends because she didn’t show up until midnight.
When I finally brought it up, she said, “You don’t understand you don’t have real responsibilities.” That one hurt. I work full time, live alone, and manage everything myself. I just don’t have the energy to keep being her backup plan.
I want to tell her I can’t always say yes anymore, but I’m scared she’ll think I’m abandoning her. Would I be the bad friend for finally setting boundaries?
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