Relationships Continue in the Afterlife

Relationships Continue in the Afterlife ~ By Amanda APS

By Amanda APS

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I have always been extremely open about my journey with spirit and the relationship I had with my Father. Our relationship was turbulent I certainly wasn’t afraid of a fight or standing up for myself. I am a straightforward woman, spicy and a firecracker who says it like it is. No one tells me what to do or how to do it, or how to live my life and raise my children. I am my own person. I have a temper (I am not proud of this) and an extremely strong personality and I’m not afraid of conflict or standing up for myself or my beliefs especially protecting my children. My Father was exactly the same. We were two bulls fighting it out and we seriously clashed. We went many years at a time without speaking (this was difficult for my children) but necessary for my mental health. Honestly, we had a love hate relationship (more hate than love sometimes). I am not perfect or proud of this, but it was our relationship and a part of our journey. This was my life.

Fast forward.

When my Father was diagnosed with cancer, conflict between us still remained. About two years before my Father passed away, I was at my parents farm and my dad, and I spoke in-depth and decided it was time to bury the conflict and move forward. This was honestly something I did not think would ever happen while Dad was alive. We made amends, we both tried hard to build our foundation and genuinely move forward. Age had finally allowed me to not react to every situation, and honestly, this was a massive lesson for me, it taught me silence and letting go can also be my friend. I have continued with that strategy, that not everything deserves a reaction or response. It was learning to accept things the way they were and better our relationship without reacting to everything that I did not agree with.

My Father was at his end stages of cancer and spent 8 weeks in hospital as he had become very unwell. The stress myself and our families went through was enormous. My Father was never big on saying “I love you” or “your important to me”, so when my brother and I came to see Dad, we found he had been placed on a morphine syringe driver, for end of life comfort and was slowly slipping into a coma, but he could hear us talking but he couldn’t open his eyes (Your hearing is our last sense to go when we are crossing over). I know this as I’m a retired nurse. Dad knew my brother and I were on opposite sides of his bed; he reached out to hold both our hands. This was powerful, the emotions I felt were almost overwhelming, he held our hands and squeezed them with all his strength, as if to say goodbye. It was like all these years had gone by without emotion, but in those last days, at that moment, all the love he had for us was felt in that one singular moment of holding our hands. Everything was said in that moment via touch.

Dad passed away two days later. Our family sat around Dads body in a private room at the St John of Gods hospital for two hours talking and reminiscing (even with all the serious situations we experienced with Dad we were able to find humour), it was healing and important for the soul.

I prayed for my Dad and asked for forgiveness and for the loss of our relationship and for him to move on. I wanted Dad to move forward to start his journey and his new life. I have written about this on my pages when dad passed.

Dad was quite on the spirit communication side for a long time, although he had said previously that he was with an old friends daughter who had passed away. She was coming through my ITC before Dad died, my Dad knew this. Dad had become fascinated with my work with spirit (which was so important to me). In my ITC communication he has told me he was ok and with his friend’s daughter on the other side.

After Dad’s communication and ITC message things became quiet. I knew dad was in healing stages and on his journey, living his best life in spirit. I’d talk to Dad in my prayers, just like I do with my other friends and family. When we think of our loved ones in spirit our thoughts go to them immediately. Spirit hears us and know exactly what we are feeling and thinking.

Fast forward

Over the last 6 weeks my ITC communications with my Dad have begun to happen more often. My Dad always called me Mandy and now he is coming through my ITC saying “Mandy, hello darling”, “I love you”. My Dad always called people darl or darling (that’s where I get it from).

He is also leaving other messages of compassion and comfort in many recording session. This is not the Father I knew, but the Father he has become. Lessons he has obviously learned on the other-side, compassion. Empathy and love.

This is important to remember that our loved ones can change in spirit. This is my loved one in death. This is my Dad, not as I knew him on earth, but now, as I learn to know him in death. Our relationship was practically non-existent on the earth realm apart from a few years before his death. The relationship between us may not have been our greatest strength on the earth realm but is now a new beginning in death.

Many blessings.

♥️ Amanda APS

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