Things that made me think I failed
1. I had a C-section:
I wanted to birth my baby naturally so that I could have my mom and partner at my side. My baby was breeched and weighed 8lbs. I never eat healthy and was forced to. The only movement I did was at work.
2. I couldn’t handle breastfeeding:
The pain was unbearable that I had to unlatch my baby so many times. It was impossible for me to pump because every time I tried to my baby would cry. I was not sleeping at all. I gave her formula after two weeks and stopped breastfeeding after a month.
3. My baby had/has colic:
I thought that she got colic because I stopped breastfeeding. I would put her in every position possible. I tried two types of colic medicine. One day it just got suddenly better.
4. I was not able to calm my baby:
My mom would always come to the rescue, still does, and this would make me feel like I was failing.
5. I have postpartum depression:
I didn’t think it would effect me that much nor believe it. My doctor calls it irritability and to call if I experience anxiety. I’ll cry randomly and think of ways I can run away.
The journey of motherhood is often filled with unexpected challenges, leading many new moms to feel as though they are failing. Understanding these feelings is crucial for emotional well-being. Experiencing a C-section instead of a natural birth can cause feelings of disappointment and inadequacy. It’s important to remember that each birth experience is unique and personal, and circumstances often dictate the method of delivery for the health of both mother and child. Breastfeeding can also come with its own set of difficulties. Many mothers face pain or discomfort, making it challenging to establish a successful breastfeeding routine. The decision to switch to formula feeding is common and should be seen as an empowerment choice rather than a failure. Seeking support from other mothers or lactation consultants can provide much-needed encouragement. Colic is another aspect of infancy that many parents encounter, often leading to feelings of frustration and helplessness. Insight into infant care can offer reassurance—colic typically subsides over time, and support systems are essential during this difficult phase. Postpartum depression can make new moms feel isolated and overwhelmed. It’s essential to recognize that reaching out for help is an act of strength, not weakness. Joining support groups or discussing feelings with friends or professionals can significantly alleviate stress. In conclusion, many mothers experience similar struggles, and it's critical to foster a community of support and understanding. By sharing experiences, new moms can find solace in knowing they are not alone, ultimately leading to empowered parenting.
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