FTM Real Advice
The advice that made a difference as a FTM
*Shower at the same time everyday to separate your days and nights.
Pick a time, either the morning or the evening and shower everyday at this time. This really helps to keep your days straight. Have a parnter watch the baby or have the little one in the bathroom with you!
*Start dinner in the morning.
It sounds weird but little by little start making lunch and dinner. Prep your veggies, potatoes, ect, slowly throughout
the day. Pick up as well. All you have to do is cook it with minimal clean up and time needed.
*Its okay to put your crying baby down.
If you need a break when your are by yourself it is 100% okay to put your crying baby down if you are overwhelmed. Put them down in a safe space and walk away for a few minutes to collect yourself. Its dangerous to get angry at your baby and lose control. Just walk away and take a breather, your baby will forgive you!
*Dont stress about how your baby is fed.
For the sake of your mental health, dont go crazy thinking about supply or how your baby wont latch on the breast. I was 5months PP before I finally realized that its okay to supplement with some formula. I had some serious PPD because I thought I was not good enough due to a low supply. Its okay, it really is if your baby doesnt take the breast or you dont produce enough. Fed is fed, it doesnt matter how.
*Dont turn on the lights at night.
Newborn need to regulate their days and nights. If then sleep in a dark room during the day and you turn the lights on at night because they are awake you will have a baby that sleeps all day and keeps you up all night. Let them take naps in rooms with sunlight in the day, they will fall asleep dont worry. Only use night lights or red lights during night feeds and changes. This helps regulate their days much much quicker.
Hope this helps!
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Based on my own first-time mom journey, I found that establishing consistent routines like showering at the same time each day not only helped me mark the passage of time but also created a small, reliable moment of self-care in the chaos of newborn care. Having my baby nearby during shower time made me feel connected, even in brief alone moments. Meal prep was initially overwhelming, but starting dinner preparations gradually throughout the day made cooking less daunting. Chopping vegetables or prepping ingredients during short breaks saved me from late-night exhaustion and cut down kitchen mess. I also learned the importance of taking breaks when overwhelmed. Putting my crying baby down safely and stepping away to breathe was crucial—it helped me avoid frustration and regain calm. This approach reduced my anxiety and reminded me that pauses are okay, not neglect. Feeding struggles with breastfeeding often left me feeling inadequate. Eventually accepting formula supplementation alleviated immense pressure and greatly improved my mental health. Remember, fed is fed—your baby's nourishment comes first, regardless of the method. Lighting at night was something I hadn’t considered before. Keeping the room dim with red or night lights during nighttime feedings helped my baby differentiate between day and night, promoting better sleep patterns. Exposing my baby to natural light during daytime naps reinforced this rhythm over time. Overall, embracing flexibility, asking for help, and focusing on mental wellness were game changers on this journey. Every mom's experience is unique, but these practical tips helped me thrive through those early months of motherhood.
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