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The day you stop explaining yourself... maybe the day the brain starts protecting you.

Have you ever...

The more you explain, the more you get back.

The more you try to prove yourself, the more you get tired.

Until one day... we started to quiet down.

Not for giving up.

But because the brain has already learned

Some people didn't want to understand us at all in the first place.

And healing your own mind.

Probably more important than overcoming every conversation.

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