Not Bragging but My Bf is a Solid 11/10
**Reposting this since I lost my previous account due to integration between Lemon8 and TikTok account**
Bf and I have been dating for 4 years ever since we were in uni. After all these years, I concluded that if the best part about him is... his effort. Here are some of his green flags:
💐 He planned for occasions - birthdays, anniversaries, and valentines. He prepared bouquets without fails even though both of us think that it's a waste of money (I'm a very rational girl, trust me). He planned where to go for dinner, and made reservations. All those efforts to make things feel special on special days.
🌸 Not only special occasions, he also planned our weekly dates! Before every Saturday, he'll think about places to visit or to eat at, make reservations if needed. He'll tell me in advance where it's going to be and check if I'm ok with it!
🌟 He picks me up and sends me home every single time we go on any kind of dates! If you assume that he has a car - no he doesn't. He uses public transport to come to my house. And his house is 1hr away from mine 🥹
🧜🏼♀️ He has a provider mindset. He picked up the tab everytime, whether it is for dinner, entertainment tickets, transport if we don't use public transport, etc. Even when we were still in school and I made more than him through multiple internships and part-time jobs, he still covered for me
🎡 He's emotionally stable. He doesn't say things out of spite, nor that he's scary when he's angry. When we are fighting, he will always say sorry first, calm me first, listen to whatever shit I have to say, before saying his part. And in our three years of relationship, he has never ever raised his voices at me
🫥 My parents are hard to please, trust me, I'm a high achiever and am still trying to please them at the age of 24. They always like to test him whenever he comes over. Whether he took the initiatives to help tidy up stuff, whether he has the right mindset to be the head of the family (I come from a traditional chinese family). After every visit, he'll ask me whether he did ok, and whether there's anything he could improve on! And if there's any, he never fails to do it the following month he meet my parents.
🥰 A condition of my parents to get married is for my bf to have non-rented place to stay, and to pay for the wedding (key is my bf, so I'm not contributing anything to it). After my bf got his first job, he pulled out an excel and told me his saving plan to be able to get the house downpayment ready by the age I want to get married on, which is still 5 - 6 years away!
👽 He's very smart - I knew this because I went to the same uni as him and he's doing *very well* in arguably one of the most competitive major in local university. He's very responsible and hardworking in the past too. I don't know much about his current work situation but it looks like that's he's doing ok at work? I often find him scribbling his work stuff while waiting for me to get my make up on
🫶🏻 He always make me feel v special and loved. I am quite pretty on the face, but I'm on the fatter side (BMI is 25.6, which is overweight). But everytime I take a pic of myself, he never fails to tell me how cute/ pretty I am. Whether I have my make up on, or not, he tells me that I'm pretty nevertheless. 🤤
And a bunch of other bare minimums like being ok to wait until marriage to have sex, not liking / following celebrity girls in ig (i have access to his ig acc) And he wasn't like this when we first get together! He changes overtime to become the man of my dream. But that's a story for another time ☺️☺️
They say your boyfriend is a reflection of how much you love yourself. I'm glad my boyfriend is him. #boyfriend #boyfriendtips #relationship #relationshipadvice #RealTalk
Reflecting on the qualities that make a partner truly special, I can say that thoughtful actions often speak louder than grand gestures. For anyone looking to build a strong relationship, it’s important to appreciate the little things your partner does regularly, such as planning dates or supporting you emotionally. These habits build a foundation of trust and love. From my experience, the way my boyfriend consistently plans our weekly outings and makes reservations shows his genuine care to keep our bond exciting and meaningful. It’s not just about special occasions; it’s about continuous effort that strengthens the relationship. Moreover, his provider mindset and willingness to cover expenses even when I was earning more highlighted his desire to share and care without pride or ego. This fosters equality and respect. Dealing with family expectations is often challenging, especially when cultural traditions are involved. His proactive approach—seeking feedback, adapting, and striving to meet expectations—reflects emotional maturity and commitment to our future. Lastly, his constant affirmations about my appearance, regardless of makeup or outfit, help me embrace self-love and confidence. It’s this blend of emotional stability, kindness, and responsibility that makes for a truly complementary partner. If you’re wondering about what to look for or nurture in your relationship, consider these subtle yet powerful green flags—it’s the consistent, genuine effort that truly counts.
Hard to find. A lot of guys will think this is irrelevant. Cherish him okay.