like am I tripping?
2 months into our relationship + He claims it's NOT because he misses her — but because he “loves how it smells"
my friend says it's harmless, but to me, perfume isn’t just a smell.
It’s memory. It’s energy. It’s a presence.
That scent already lived a life before me.
It carries moments, feelings, versions of someone I’m not trying to compete with. PERIOD
I believe perfume should tell YOUR story.
Not remind someone of their past🙄🤮
I DON'T compete with ghosts.🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️
BUT, the main problem is........
I LOVE the perfume too😭😭😭😭
but it's the principal 😭😭
But the perfume is so sensual and did I mention I love it😭
What would you do? 🤍
*for entertainment purposes* 😬
Dealing with a situation where your partner asks you to wear the same perfume as their ex can be incredibly challenging. Perfume is deeply personal; it's not just a scent but a carrier of memories, emotions, and past experiences. Wearing a fragrance tied to someone else’s history can evoke feelings of insecurity or discomfort, especially early in a relationship. From my own experience, I understand the mix of emotions involved. At first, I tried to be open-minded, convincing myself that the scent was just a fragrance and didn’t carry emotional weight. However, it became increasingly difficult when I recognized how the perfume symbolized a connection to someone my partner once loved. It's important to communicate openly with your partner about how this makes you feel. Let them know that while you appreciate their attraction to the fragrance, you want your own presence to be unique and not a reminder of their past. Setting these boundaries helps establish respect and mutual understanding. Interestingly, some might argue that it’s harmless or even sweet, but the scent often tells a story that may unconsciously affect your self-esteem or the way you view the relationship. When a scent 'lived a life before you,' it can feel like you’re sharing space with a ghost, which is unsettling. One practical solution I found was discovering a similar fragrance with unique notes that still captured the sensuality of the original scent but felt like 'ours' instead of 'theirs.' This way, the association with the ex diminishes, and it becomes a new memory for both of you. In the end, the goal is to honor your feelings and the relationship’s health. Perfume should tell your story—not remind your partner of someone else’s past. Prioritize communication, respect, and personal comfort to navigate these complex but important emotions.
I'd def buy a bf a cologne I loved. I don't associate scents to people. I associate my scents to events sometimes depending on the event but its a bit rare. Some people can just dissociate like that. likewise I asked my bf if he would think of me when he puts on damn near his entire wardrobe and he said not really, he doesn't think of basic things like clothes as something he should recall a person for. A gift level depends on time, situation, environment, and feelings at the moment. Not all gifts are equal as well. Just remember your body chemistry will make the perfume transform to you. It might smell sensual on you but it depends how it smelled on her and how she wore it. Clothing can also alter perception to a scent in a way.