Bf mad about me showering for my 5-year-old son
My son is 5 and still very much a little kid. I always give him privacy when he wants it — he gets dressed by himself, and no one in the house walks around half-dressed. Sometimes when he’s in the bath, he’ll call me in just to chat or show me something funny.
The other day, my boyfriend saw me go in to talk to him and totally freaked out. He said it was “weird” and “inappropriate,” like I was doing something wrong. I told him my son’s still little, and if he’s comfortable having me there, it shouldn’t be a big deal. I’d never go in uninvited.
There was one time I had to pee while my son was in the bath — he’d already asked me to come in, and I literally thought my bladder would explode. He turned around, and nothing inappropriate happened. My boyfriend says it’s bad boundaries, but I honestly don’t think I did anything wrong. Am I missing something, or is he just overreacting? How can I get my boyfriend and my son to get along？
My son is almost 7. He does NOT take a bath alone. My husband or I are ALWAYS in the bathroom with him. I see him naked if we are in a hurry and he’s undressing while I’m trying to pull his clothes out. He’s my CHILD there is NOTHING wrong or INAPPROPRIATE about that. I’m his mother. Even if he’s 17 and has a problem I’d STILL be there to help him. If he felt comfortable coming to me at 17 and saying hey mom there’s something that doesn’t look right about my penis and he wanted my help. I as his mother would help him!!! just as I would help MY father. If my father was elderly and couldn’t care for himself I would bathe him, I would dress him. I would do whatever was needed. The only thing disgusting and inappropriate about this entire story is the behavior of your boyfriend. This just boggles my mind and honestly I would rather be single than have my innocent motherly duties of care giving taken into question and made out to be some disgusting act.