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Red flag or am I crazy?

My boyfriend got a message from his friend that said something like, “Did she find out yet?” and he quickly deleted it when I glanced over.

I asked about it and he brushed it off, saying it was “just a joke” and I’m reading into things. But now I can’t stop thinking about it. My gut says something’s off, but I also don’t want to be that paranoid girlfriend.

Would that text make you feel weird too? Or am I just being dramatic?

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2025/8/4 Edited to

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I was staying optimistic until he said "it was a joke" I'm sorry but you are telling me him and her texted eachother saying "yeah I want you to sent me a text saying did she find out and then I'm gonna delete it real fast bc it would be a funny joke" VERY unlikely and I doubt he did that😒

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