Self Confidence After 30
People do not talk about the plummet of your self confidence after 30. It’s been something I’ve struggled with on and off for a long time. The body dysmorphia doesn’t help either. There are days I see photos of myself from my 20s and then look back in the mirror to see what I am now. The darkness under my eyes, wrinkles, fine lines forming. The way my body has changed due to both age and health. Sometimes I’m disgusted with how I look. But I have to remind myself of a few things:
I’m still here. In 2017, I almost ended it. I WANTED to end it. I was so unhealthily mentally and physically. If it weren’t for a few friends and my therapist, I without a doubt wouldn’t be here.
I’ve lived a life. Things haven’t always been easy. I’ve been through it. Not saying anyone hasn’t, but I have a few scars. My body is a testament to my resilience to back down and let things define me.
I need to love myself more. I’m a healthy weight. I eat what I want. I no longer try to make myself fit into a cosplay, I make the cosplay to fit ME. While I do have health problems, I try to be patient with myself and give my body what it needs. My life is worth something, I need to take care of my vessel.
Not in talks about how you m rally plummet on your self image in your 30s. I wasn’t prepared. Nor do I think I’ll ever truly have a grasp on it. The pining for what I once was will always be there. However, I’ve learned to appreciate the growth I’ve had. The woman I am vs the girl back then. The wisdom I’ve gained. The life long friendships. The memories and lessons that went with them. I’ve learned to appreciate my changing body carrying me through it all to now, where it can finally start to heal. My soul and passion start to shine through, chasing the things I want. I still have bad days, but I push myself hard to love myself. That way when the next year passes, I feel a little closer to myself.
Be kind to others. But most importantly…be kind to yourself.
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Entering your 30s can bring unexpected challenges to self-image and confidence. Many experience reflections on their past and how their bodies have changed, which can trigger feelings of insecurity. Yet, this decade is also an opportunity for growth and self-acceptance. Research shows that self-compassion can significantly impact how we view ourselves, particularly during life transitions. It's crucial to shift focus from external appearances to internal qualities, fostering a healthier mindset. Engage in positive affirmations, celebrate personal achievements, and practice gratitude for the experiences that shape us. Moreover, community support plays a vital role in building resilience. Connecting with others who've faced similar struggles can be healing. Consider joining local groups or online forums where individuals share their journeys and encourage each other. It's also essential to prioritize mental health. Seeking therapy or engaging in wellness activities like yoga and meditation can assist in cultivating a more positive self-image. Remember, your worth isn't defined by society's standards but by your beliefs and values. Embrace the wisdom and strength that comes with age, and allow yourself to thrive.
You’re one of the most beautiful people I’ve had the pleasure of meeting and I mean that in every sense of the word. You’ve always been incredibly kind to me and I’m sorry you haven’t always been so kind to yourself. I’m proud of the progress you’ve made and I’m confident you’ll continue to heal and grow.