i canceled the date after he said THIS

We were texting before our first date when he suddenly asked, “Can we be girlfriend and boyfriend?” I laughed and told him no, thinking it was a little too soon for that conversation. But then he followed it up with, “Well, can we still kiss?”

Something about that comment felt completely off to me. It gave me the ick immediately, and I knew in that moment I wasn’t comfortable moving forward. If someone shows you early signs that they don’t respect your boundaries, believe them the first time.

I canceled the date right after that. My safety, comfort, and peace will always come first. What’s the fastest ick you’ve ever gotten before a first date?

#lemon8partner #lemon8challenge #girltalk #dateadvice #girlpov

2025/8/31 Edited to

... Read moreNavigating the world of dating can be tricky, especially when early conversations hint at red flags. One crucial tip is to always trust your gut feeling. If someone says or does something that makes you uncomfortable early on, it’s important to listen to that instinct. For example, a guy asking to be "girlfriend and boyfriend" before even meeting and then pushing for a kiss after rejection shows a disregard for personal boundaries, which is a major warning sign. Your safety, comfort, and peace of mind should always come first in any dating scenario. Boundaries exist to protect your emotional and physical well-being. When those are ignored or tested prematurely, it’s a signal that the other person might not respect you fully. Many people have experienced the “ick” — that instant feeling of discomfort when something feels off. It’s very common to get that feeling when a potential partner moves too quickly or makes you feel pressured. Remember, it’s perfectly okay to cancel or step away from any date or interaction that doesn’t feel right. Dating should be based on mutual respect, clear communication, and a gradual building of trust. Early conversations should focus on getting to know each other without rushing into labels or physical intimacy. If someone pushes those boundaries too soon, it’s a healthy choice to reconsider continuing. Ultimately, the fastest ick many have experienced involves premature requests for commitment or intimacy, such as asking to be "boyfriend and girlfriend" before the first date is even over, or pressing for a kiss immediately after rejection. These signs are often indicative of someone who doesn’t prioritize your comfort. Sharing your experiences and learning from others can be empowering. Online communities and forums, like those using hashtags #lemon8partner, #dateadvice, and #girltalk, offer safe spaces to exchange dating advice and stories. Knowing you’re not alone can help you stay confident in setting your boundaries and making healthy choices in dating.

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Always be careful! I had someone say, "I love you," on the first time meeting!! Run don't look back!!

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A guy I was talking to was very upset because I did not show my 🍒 off FaceTime. He insisted to be casual the first date and have seggs right away before actually taking me out. I told him I don’t do that. Then this happened.

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