The Words I wish I could tell you
I was a victim of abuse…
Some days I feel like I still am….
For years I was taunted by you, your air, your control, the screaming, yelling , hitting.. and now that you can’t control me you control her.
Sometimes I wonder if she knows she’s a victim.
She claims her power in her words and actions .. but how much power can you have if you are being controlled by a narcissist.. shutting you out from the world, forcing you to go back to a life you shouldn’t need anymore …
Worst of all getting in between us.
I thought you loved me… why is he controlling us?
Truthfully you stood in between us for so long, you were also my abuser for years.
I was once your best friend…
It should’ve never been so, but I was.
Even though you were
supposed to be my protector , I protected you. I helped you. I gave anything I could to you, and you just continued to take.
Finally I reached a point where I grounded my boundaries with you and you know that there is no next time, this is it. You can and will loose me forever.
So we try and try to have that “healthy ” relationship, but I wonder if it’ll ever be?
There’s been so much abuse and damage I’m triggered by your words.
Sadly I’m triggered by your lifestyle.
Pretending he’s not something he is, and making excuses for him.
You can say it out loud as many times as you want, it doesn’t make sense.
When will you get that?
… it not only scares me but frustrates me… most of all it saddens me that’ll be your life till the day you die.
I want to scream out to you
“YOURE A VICTIM OF ABUSE”
But you’ll never hear me.
So what else am I to do but try and take what he allows you to give.
I’m worried about you. #LoveYourself #mentalhealth #literature #abusiverelationship #brokenheartedness
Surviving narcissistic abuse can leave deep emotional scars, affecting one’s self-worth and ability to form healthy relationships. It’s crucial to recognize the patterns of emotional manipulation and control often exhibited by a narcissist. Victims may feel trapped, struggling to see their situation clearly, due to the constant gaslighting and criticism. Awareness is the first step toward healing; acknowledging the reality of the abuse can empower the victim to break free from the cycle of manipulation. Support and therapy play essential roles in recovery. Professional help can provide a safe space to process feelings of confusion and betrayal, while also offering strategies to establish and enforce personal boundaries. Building a support network is equally important, as connecting with others who understand the trauma can provide validation and encouragement. Additionally, understanding the traits of narcissistic behavior can equip individuals to spot these patterns in their own relationships. This knowledge not only aids in moving forward but also helps in preventing future entanglements with similar personalities. Victims often feel isolated, but it’s vital to remember that they are not alone, and resources are available to aid in their journey toward healing and self-love. Ultimately, reclaiming one’s identity after such profound manipulation requires courage and time. Each step taken towards understanding and healing is a testament to one’s resilience and strength. Empowerment comes through self-awareness and the refusal to accept continued abuse. Embrace your journey, and know there is hope and strength in your story.
Thanks for sharing! My abuse was verbal! I was married at the age of 19! Growing up I witnessed my Dad verbally abusing my Mom! He never laid hands on her but I had to listen and watch this as a child and in some ways I thought this was a part of being married. But somehow I knew this was wrong! My mom was so sweet and my dad was a good man too but I couldn’t relate or understand what he was doing until I became older! Physically he never touched her physically, never! But the sorrow on my Moms face was very sad! When I was married I experienced similar verbal abuse but I didn’t stay in that volatile marriage because I knew it was wrong! My heart goes out to women and men who are suffering mental cruelty and verbal abuse🙏🏽💯💯💯