Young, Black n’ Therapy
Being in therapy has been so enlightening.
Never would I ever have thought I would be able to sit down and go over every single bit of trauma from my life, and try to be able to have healthier coping mechanisms.
Some 🔑 points from my sessions:
1)It’s okay, you don’t have to fight every battle - My amazing therapist Chrystal helped me to appreciate that at times in my adulthood the reason why I tend to feel the need to speak up often is because I was silenced a lot in my childhood. It is hard to tell myself that if I don’t speak up in certain moments when I feel wronged. It just feels like someone is trying to take advantage of me.. or worse… they think I’m weak. Anger, screaming, door slamming … that’s the only way at one point in my life I felt was okay to handle conflict resolution. I’m not going to lie it’s HARD!
I hate injustice and I prefer to set strong boundaries so you know not to cross me.
But you can still set strong boundaries and have healthy relationships with patience as well. Having more control over my reactions brings too much inner peace, and yall it just shows grown women 💯.
2) Yes, they have trauma too- this hit me hard. Knowing that the person I once looked to, to protect and care for me is deeply wounded. That is why he was so abusive. The way he treated me isn’t a reflection of me but his insecurities and trauma. Digesting this information honestly made me have more pity and sadness for that person. It also made me realize I know nothing about their childhood and life before me, just that they’ve “ been through a lot”. But what is the “a lot”? Again not my problem. However, realizing that every bad thing that’s happened wasn’t my fault, especially because I was just a child, has been helping me to handle negative situations healthier.
Yall, it’s only been 3 sessions I believe and I’ve had a lot of clarity with so many negative emotions I’ve been holding in. A lot of these points I knew already. But taking the time to talk it out with a neutral party helped.
A lot of things that we have all been through we’ve normalized, especially in strong cultures like myself. I found my therapist on Grow Therapy.
You’re able to look at the techniques and experience of each therapist to see how they will help you in your journey with therapy.
You’re able to pretty much filter what you would like in your therapist: race, gender, religion etc.
if you got anything from this post take away these points :
1)It doesn’t matter what someone else feels isn’t a big deal, if you need a space and someone to vent to.. start therapy..
2) race doesn’t matter.. we all have been through some things, you want a healthier way of coping? … start therapy…
3) you feel lost in your life and having trouble navigating.. start therapy
It took me a couple of years to finally get on board… but my suggestion, just do it. I’ve never met anyone that said “ I regret taking care of my mind, wish I never did it.” #trauma #LoveYourself #fyp #mentalhealthjourney #therapyforblackwomen
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