Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day
🤍👼 October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day 👼🤍
Some things I learned from losing a child....
It makes people uncomfortable to talk about, but it's your child. So talk about it all you want.
Society expects you to get over it. You'll never "get over it," but you can heal and find hope again.
It's important to allow yourself space to grieve. It is okay to feel your emotions from sadness to anger to even joy.
Some organizations have support groups. These are great and safe places to talk to others and hear what others went through and how they cope.
Self care is so important. It's not selfish.
Sometimes we dont get answers. This isnt your fault.
Asking someone how far along they were is rude. Its like putting a measurement on how much you are allowed to grief and experience pain. I lost a child. Period. You can simply answer far enough along, unless you are willing to share more details.
God is NOT punishing you. God doesnt work that way. In fact, I believe God is caring for our babies while they are dancing in heaven waiting to see us again. And we will see them again.
Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day on October 15th is a significant moment for many to honor and remember the babies lost during pregnancy or infancy. Losing a child is an incredibly intimate and impactful experience that often leaves enduring grief and a complex mix of emotions. Many find it difficult to share their feelings openly because society tends to expect people to move on quickly, but healing is a personal journey that requires acknowledging all emotions—from sadness and anger to moments of joy. One important lesson that surfaces from learning to cope with such loss is the value of creating a safe space for grief. It is important to allow yourself permission to grieve on your own terms without judgment. Some people find great solace in joining support groups tailored specifically for pregnancy and infant loss. These groups offer a supportive community where individuals can exchange stories, share coping strategies, and find comfort among those who truly understand the pain of loss. Self-care during this time is not a luxury but a necessity. Taking care of your mental, emotional, and physical health can help build resilience over time. Many also struggle with unanswered questions about their loss; it’s essential to remember that not having answers is not anyone’s fault and does not diminish the validity of your grief. In conversations about loss, asking questions like "how far along were you?" can unintentionally minimize the pain someone carries. Grief doesn’t need to be validated by specific details—the fact that a child was lost is enough reason to grieve and remember. Spiritual beliefs can also play a crucial role for many, offering comfort in the idea of a loving God caring for their little ones in heaven, providing hope that they will reunite one day. Recognizing and honoring Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day provides a gentle reminder that those who have experienced such loss are not alone, and that their grief and healing journey matter deeply. It's a day to speak openly, support one another, and find hope in the shared experience of love and loss.
