On crutches and he thinks it’s funny I can’t pump

I am on crutches recovering from knee surgery. My fiancé (33M) has been using my car since I’m not driving much, which is fine… as long as he fills it up.

Last night, I reminded him to take my car this morning and fill it up before my physical therapy. This morning, I reminded him again and he laughed, saying, “Yeah, the gas light’s on,” like it was a joke.

I told him that’s exactly why he should handle it because I can’t hobble around pumping gas. He got super quiet, grabbed his keys, and stormed out without a word.

I know I’m not asking anything unreasonable, but now I feel a little guilty. Reddit, was I unreasonable for standing my ground?

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2025/11/12 Edited to

... Read moreBeing on crutches after knee surgery presents genuine mobility challenges, especially when it comes to everyday tasks like pumping gas. It’s important in relationships to share responsibilities fairly, particularly when one partner is temporarily disabled. Expecting your fiancé to fill up the car when you physically cannot is not unreasonable; it’s a reasonable ask rooted in care and practicality. Gasoline pumps require balance and movement, which can be difficult or even risky for someone recovering from surgery. It’s common to feel frustrated or guilty for needing help, but recognizing your limitations and communicating them is a healthy way to maintain your wellbeing. Your fiancé’s laughter and dismissive attitude could indicate a lack of empathy or understanding, which might need to be addressed. In situations like this, open and honest communication is key. Expressing how his reaction affected you calmly can help clear misunderstandings. Sometimes, partners react defensively or ignore requests because they don’t grasp the severity of the physical challenge. Taking care of physical therapy appointments is critical for recovery, and ensuring the car is ready for these visits is logical. Asking your fiancé to fill the gas tank shows mutual respect and support during your rehabilitation. If your fiancé persists in ignoring your requests, consider discussing the division of household duties during your recovery. Most couples find strength in collaboration and understanding in times of need, helping both partners feel supported and valued. Remember, setting boundaries and standing your ground when it comes to health and safety isn’t unreasonable. It reflects self-respect and care. Genuine partners will recognize and honor those boundaries instead of dismissing them.

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Ashley Miranda

He should’ve done it without you asking. Nothing unreasonable about it.

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Cherri3bomb25

If you had to ask him to do it, there’s a problem!!

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