5 Manners I’m Teaching My Kids
Call me crazy, strict, or whatever but I have high expectations for my children because I know they are capable of so much. I want them to have the best raising for whatever their futures may hold. I’m not saying I’m doing it the right way by any means, but this is the way I think is best. You all really liked what I’m teaching my daughter so I thought this might be a good addition.
1. Yes ma’am and no ma’am. Some of you may be thinking this is common sense, and it used to be. I have found many people find this to be an antiquated practice. Honestly, it baffles me.
2. Following that, we don’t allow our kids to respond to us or any adult with “yeah, what, or huh.” Nothing grinds my gears as much as a parent calling their kid’s name and they respond with one of those. We have ours respond with “yes ma’am or yes sir” “ma’am or sir.” I think it sounds better and shows the adult respect.
3. We hold doors for people. I teach both of my kids this, but especially my son. Chivalry will be alive in this house.
4. Mindfulness in public. My husband and I have never been big on the “they’re just kids” concept in public spaces. Our kids have fun but they know how to do it respectfully. We teach them that emotions, good or bad, are okay but they cannot disrupt those around you.
5. Table manners are also very important. As they get older we will add on things like knowing what silverware is what but as toddlers we’re starting with the more simple not talking with your mouthful, eating with your mouth closed, soft voices at the table, no elbows, and more age appropriate manners.
Raising children with strong manners is a rewarding yet sometimes challenging experience. I’ve found that consistency and leading by example are crucial when teaching kids how to be polite and respectful. For instance, whenever I want my children to say "yes ma’am" or "no ma’am," I make sure to use those phrases myself whenever addressing adults or others in our presence. This reinforces that politeness is a family value and not just a rule. Teaching my children to avoid dismissive replies like "yeah," "what," or "huh" has been important because it promotes respect in conversations. When they reply with "yes sir" or "ma’am," it sets a positive tone and reflects well on them. Additionally, door-holding is more than a chore; it’s a small gesture that shows thoughtfulness and consideration, which I remind my children builds kindness in everyday life. Public mindfulness is another valuable lesson. Kids naturally want to express emotions, which is healthy, but knowing when and how to do so appropriately helps them develop emotional intelligence. I encourage my kids to recognize others’ space and feelings, which fosters empathy and social awareness. When it comes to table manners, starting with simple habits like not talking with a mouthful or using soft voices paves the way for more complex etiquette skills as they grow. We practice these steadily without pressure, celebrating small improvements. This approach has made mealtime more pleasant and less stressful for our family. Overall, teaching these manners goes beyond rules; it’s about building character and preparing my children for positive interactions in school, social settings, and their future careers. Seeing them respond politely or hold a door for someone brightens my day, confirming that these lessons truly matter. If you’re hoping to raise respectful kids, focusing on these five manners is a great place to start.