Does making more $$ mean doing nothing else??

We both clock in. We both get tired. But somehow when we get home, I’m the one doing laundry, dishes, cooking, cleaning….basically keeping the whole place running.

It’s not even about the chores anymore, it’s the mindset.

The way some men act like their job outside the house is the only job that matters, while everything else just magically happens behind the scenes.

I’m all for appreciating hard work, but I work hard too!?

I don’t get to clock out when I walk through the door. I still have dinner to make, clothes to fold, and a million things to remember that no one else seems to notice…

I just wish more people understood that being the “breadwinner” doesn’t mean being the bare minimum at home.

Do you think men genuinely don’t notice when we’re doing more… or do they just pretend not to?

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2025/11/9 Edited to

... Read moreThe common perception that the breadwinner’s job is the only one that matters often overlooks the invisible labor that keeps a home running smoothly. As noted in the shared experience, chores like laundry, dishes, and cooking are essential yet frequently go unnoticed or undervalued. Being the breadwinner does involve financial responsibility, but it should not mean doing the bare minimum when it comes to household duties. Studies on gender roles within households have shown that even when both partners are employed full time, women disproportionately shoulder the bulk of domestic work. This phenomenon is often referred to as the "second shift," where women engage in paid employment only to return home to unpaid labor. This imbalance can cause resentment and fatigue, as both partners contribute differently but significantly to the household's overall functioning. Effective communication and mutual recognition of each other's efforts are crucial to addressing this issue. The statement highlights a vital point that the work done at home is continuous and does not have a clear clock-out time, unlike formal employment. Acknowledging this can foster empathy and cooperation. Encouraging shared responsibilities at home benefits relationships by promoting fairness and reducing stress. It also models equity for any children in the household. Men who understand and participate actively in chores recognize that the partnership extends beyond financial support. Ultimately, making more money does not grant the right to neglect shared responsibilities. It's important to view home management as a shared job requiring collaboration, respect, and appreciation. The insights in the original article resonate with many who strive for balance between work and home life, emphasizing that true partnership involves effort in all areas, not just the financial one.

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Donald Champagne jr

he is purposely doing nothing cause he is stuck in the past where that was the womans job is to stay at the house cook and clean and basically doing anything the male asked for and werent allowed to have a job so he is massagnistic towards women which is not right at all..

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Holli Miller

thing is, if the woman is the breadwinner she is still the one doing the majority of housework and childcare, so the point is moot.

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