Today marks 12 years of marriage with my beautiful wife, Brittany. ❤️
We got married two weeks and two days after meeting each other—yes, really.
One thing we’ve learned is this: marriage is not easy, and it’s definitely not automatic. It takes work—and work is necessary. Our first year was probably the hardest, simply learning each other and figuring out how to walk life together.
Our marriage has never been about 50/50.
It’s been 100/100.
And it’s never been about “submit to me, I’m the head of the house.”
No—it’s been about serving her and loving her the way Christ loves His bride. When love and service lead, alignment follows naturally. You can’t expect a woman to align if you don’t know how to love or serve her well.
Now hear me—this didn’t come easy, and it didn’t come overnight. It’s easy to talk about these things; it’s much harder to live them out consistently. We don’t have it all together. We never will. But what we do have is commitment—showing up, communicating, and walking this life out together by the grace of God that truly dominates our lives.
If anyone ever told you marriage was easy… 😂😂
That’s me laughing for a second—because there is nothing easy about marriage. It’s about becoming selfless so you can be what your partner needs.
So today I want to say thank you, Brittany, for continuing to show up every single day—through our shortcomings, miscommunications, arguments, hurts, and growth. Thank you for being the woman you are and the woman God created you to be. I will continue to do the same.
These last 12 years have been amazing, and I can’t wait to see what God has ahead for our family—for me and you—to infinity and beyond.
You are beautiful, brilliant, strong, and amazing. Thank you for loving me and choosing me, and for allowing me to lead you with love.
Happy 12-year anniversary, Brittany!
Let’s go!!! ❤️🔥
From my own experience, reaching a milestone like 12 years of marriage truly highlights how essential continuous effort and mutual understanding are to sustaining a fulfilling partnership. In those early days, it often feels like you're navigating uncharted waters, learning each other's quirks, communication styles, and emotional needs. Just like mentioned, marriage is far from automatic — it demands showing up every day, even when it's tough. One key lesson I've found is the idea of giving 100% rather than splitting responsibilities or affection halfway. When both partners commit fully, it creates an environment of trust and support that can weather conflicts and life's hurdles. This commitment means active listening during disagreements, honest apology when wrong, and celebrating each other’s strengths. Moreover, serving your partner selflessly, rather than expecting hierarchical roles or rigid rules, fosters genuine love. This approach aligns well with many spiritual perspectives that emphasize humility and sacrifice. Loving with the mindset of serving allows for a deeper emotional connection and nurtures the relationship’s growth. Communication is another pillar; consistent dialogue helps address small issues before they escalate and keeps both partners connected. Life will always bring challenges, from miscommunications to personal hardships, but tackling them together strengthens the bond. Finally, keeping faith or shared values at the center can provide guidance and resilience. Whether through spiritual beliefs or shared goals, this common ground can help couples face uncertainty with hope and patience. In summary, celebrating 12 years together is a powerful reminder that marriage is a journey of learning to love better, serve with humility, and remain committed through all seasons of life. It’s about being imperfect but persistent—the real essence of lasting love.