Why positive self talk matters more for ADHDers
Does that statistic make anyone else want to cry? Thinking back to my time as an undiagnosed girl in the 90s, I remember getting a lot of negative feedback that mostly came in the form of disapproval from my parents.
And then I remember that the verbiage I use to talk to/about my kids is very different than what I heard as a young person. We talk about problems, limitations, accommodations. I know that they are trying their best, and that their best looks very different day to day.
Do you remember having a lot of negative feedback as a child? Who was it from?
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Positive self talk is not just a motivational cliché, especially for those with ADHD. It addresses the unique challenges that ADHD individuals face, such as low self-esteem stemming from childhood experiences and overwhelming negative messages from peers and adults alike. Studies indicate that people with ADHD can receive an astonishing 20,000 more negative comments by the age of 10 compared to their peers. This discrepancy highlights the importance of nurturing self-worth and resilience through the practice of positive self talk. Practicing positive self talk can transform how ADHDers view their abilities and potential. When they internalize encouraging messages, they are more likely to approach challenges with confidence and a growth mindset. This shift can help ADHDers navigate daily obstacles, improve their academic performance, and build healthier relationships. Techniques that can support positive self talk include daily affirmations, mindfulness practices, and reframing negative thoughts into constructive feedback. Furthermore, involving family in positive reinforcement can create a supportive environment that fosters self-acceptance and emotional well-being. In summary, cultivating positive self talk is not only beneficial but necessary for ADHD individuals to combat the pervasive negative influences they encounter early in life. Emphasizing strengths rather than weaknesses can lead to empowered and successful individuals who embrace their identities with confidence.
Yep. That’s why I’m not in EMDR therapy. First negative I remember was first grade. Teacher told me I wasn’t special because I wasn’t left handed. While I understand, as an adult, what she was trying to do it was EXTREMELY wrong to tell a first grader they weren’t special. No matter what the circumstances are.