Ready for MARRIAGE? 4 Qs to ask yourself + God
In my last post, I mentioned that God has a step-by-step plan to bring you into a happy marriage! So let’s take some time to break down each of these steps.
We’ll start with 4 simple, preliminary questions you should ask yourself and Him before you step into your premarital era! 💃🏻
🍋 Q1: “Is God calling me to marriage?”
🙏 Obviously, He’s not calling *everyone* to marriage all at the same time. So it’s your job to figure out if He’s calling YOU! Read the Word, pray about it, and talk to older folks who’ve successfully gone down this road.
🍋 Q2: “Am I prepared?”
🙏 I mean, /are/ you really prepared? Be honest with yourself. If (and only if) you get the clear impression that the Lord is calling you to marriage, then you should determine if you are prepared for such a step. It could certainly be His will that you enter into marriage, but you might not be ready in this very moment. But at this stage, you have plenty of time to get ready!
🍋 Q3: “What do the man’s advisors think about it?”
🙏 What a man’s advisors (parents, mentors, church leaders, etc.) say about him will be a good indication if he’s ready to start planning for marriage.
🍋 Q4: “What do the woman’s advisors think about it?”
🙏 Likewise, a woman’s advisors can provide wise counsel about her fitness for marriage and her compatibility with the man in question.
If you're able to answer each of these questions in the affirmative, then CONGRATS! You're on your way to start the courtship-to-marriage process 🔥
(Note: I’d love to delve more into each of these questions more in future posts—so please let me know if you’re interested!)
❓Question of the hour: Have you ever asked yourself any of these questions❓
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Stepping into the journey of marriage is such a big, beautiful decision, and for me, it felt incredibly important to approach it with intention and prayer. Beyond just the initial thought of 'Am I ready?', I realized there were deeper layers to explore, especially when seeking God's will for my life. When thinking about 'Is God calling me to marriage?' (a question often pondered with clasped hands resting on an open book), I found it wasn't always a dramatic voice from the heavens. Sometimes, it's a quiet prompting, a growing peace, or a consistent alignment of circumstances. For me, it involved a lot of time in prayer, asking for clarity, not just for *me*, but for my potential partner too. I also looked for confirmation through scripture that spoke to partnership and covenant. It’s also incredibly helpful to observe mature Christian couples. Are their marriages examples of what you aspire to? Their journeys can offer valuable wisdom and a real-world perspective on God’s design for marriage, helping you discern if this path truly resonates with your heart and spirit. Then came 'Am I truly prepared?' This isn't just about having a ring or a wedding date. It’s about emotional, spiritual, and even practical readiness. I reflected deeply on my own emotional maturity: Can I handle conflict gracefully? Am I quick to forgive? Do I understand my own needs and communicate them effectively? Spiritually, am I rooted in my faith independently, or am I looking for a spouse to 'fix' my spiritual walk? Practically, it’s about understanding financial stewardship, home management, and how we'd navigate daily life together. Being prepared means being honest about your strengths and areas for growth, knowing that marriage is a journey of continuous sanctification. These are the 4 Questions to ask first that truly get to the heart of the matter. The questions about 'What do the man's advisors think?' and 'What do the woman's advisors think?' are absolutely vital. I learned that seeking wise counsel isn't a sign of weakness, but of wisdom. These advisors – be it parents, spiritual mentors, or trusted friends – often see things we can't. They can offer an objective perspective on character, compatibility, and potential red flags or green lights. For instance, my mentor once pointed out a pattern in my communication style that I hadn't noticed, which was so helpful to work on before marriage. It's not about them making the decision for you, but providing a sounding board and invaluable insights that help you make an informed, prayerful choice. They can help you see if both partners are truly aligned in their values and vision for the future, ensuring a solid foundation for your union. Ultimately, these 4 questions to ask first aren't just checkboxes; they're invitations to deep self-reflection and spiritual discernment. They helped me immensely in feeling confident and peaceful about my own steps towards marriage, knowing I had sought both God's guidance and the wisdom of those He placed in my life. I hope they can do the same for you on your journey!