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Stuck in a vicious cycle!

I don’t know how much more of this cycle I can take!

Let’s back track so yall can understand….

I’m engaged with a an almost 5 year old and I’m currently 8 weeks pregnant with baby number 2. I am a SAHM and love every part of it. However I’m having a hard time living where we currently reside.

We live in my future mother in laws home, she moved to Texas years ago. The home is paid off she doesn’t charge us rent, however we do pay the monthly bills electric, internet, water etc.

Although I consider us lucky to live in a house rent free, we are unable to do anything with it. Other than our own personal belongings and our kids personal belongings nothing in the home is ours. And we can’t physically do anything about it to change appearance( make it more convient for us)

We are working on saving to eventually start our dream of buying a double wide and putting it on land so we can start a homestead. But with us being a one income household it’s taking longer than we want.

Let me add to this there are generations of family stuff in the home. My finances grandmothers, his mom, and more. So I can never fully clean the way I want because I feel like I’m overstepping or just moving stuff that isn’t mine doesn’t feel right!

I’m very blessed to not have a monthly rent, however how do I get through making this place work for my family…. My fiance doesn’t see the big deal because well he is not here 40+ hours a week.

#survivingtothriving #makingitwork #sahm #sahmlifestyle #pregnancy #pregnant #toddlermom #unfiltered #unaesthetic

2024/5/23 Edited to

Many families face similar struggles when balancing financial constraints with the desire for a personalized living space. For those living with relatives, such as a future mother-in-law, it can be challenging to navigate the dynamics and be respectful while making it your own. One solution is to create small personal spaces within shared areas; this allows you to express your family's identity without overstepping boundaries. Staying positive through tough situations is essential. Use your time living rent-free to save steadily for your dream home, consider budgeting apps to keep track of expenses, and engage in conversations with other Stay-at-Home Moms who might provide valuable insights and support. This support network can be crucial as relationships shift during life’s changes, like pregnancy. Additionally, teaching young children the importance of preparing for their future can form a bond you cherish. Even though it can feel like progress is slow, focusing on what you can control, such as saving for a dream homestead or creating a nurturing environment for your children, will pay off in the long run.

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