The 3 “D” Words | TW ⚠️
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Our vows mentioned we would never have these 3 words. These words are something that we do acknowledge but won’t let seep into our marriage or our vocabulary as much as humanly possible. We are Christian and I personally firmly believe the power of life and death are in the tongue (Proverbs 18:21) & that the Enemy is always listening to our words (1 Peter 5:8) and can’t hear our thoughts (Psalm 139:4).
These words are:
1. Depression ~ I have struggled with it majorly in the past, been on medication, been in therapy, intensive psychiatry. Sertraline helped until it didn’t and the side affects became too much. Personally nothing ever helped me like my relationship with Jesus. My husband helps me on days where I feel like a massive grey cloud is rolling in and I can feel it starting, or I just need to cry for hours on end, or I can’t move from the bed all day. He is such a gentleman & a kind soul. I help & lift him up on days when he is feeling down, needing encouragement, or grief gets the better of him. We made a pact to support each other and that doesn’t only mean financially, it means emotionally + mentally as well.
2. Death ~ I openly tell my husband we won’t speak anything like this aloud, we hold one another accountable. I don’t like jokes about it, self deprecating jabs, or anything that makes light of accidents/death. It simply doesn’t fly. I’ve lost people to su!c!de, my husband lost his mom to cvncer, and life is too fragile and short. Even joking about things like car crashes give me off vibes about people. I don’t care what is is, we don’t speak it out loud, and walk away if we hear it, I don’t proclaim anything like this for him, myself, or my family.
3. Divorce ~ We knew immediately this was number one for US. I am putting it last since I have the most to say on this subject. I am not putting down divorce. It is needed in many situations, such a emotional + mental abuse, substance abuse, financial control, domestic violence, child welfare/safety + personal safety, and so much more!
If you or anyone you know is experiencing this, please reach out to me as I have many resources & contacts that can help!
Personally for us we don’t use this word in our marriage since I don’t believe it is for, or ever will be for us! We have a rock that our relationship was built on (Jesus Christ), have done hours of per marital counselling, and both honestly love the heck out of one another and can’t imagine being elsewhere but in each other’s arms. I’ve seen marriages in my family fall apart and nothing is left but broken souls + hearts, kids struggling to understand, and tons of memories (good and bad). I don’t want this or proclaim it for my husband and I or our future children or family, so this is why it is a NO word in our house + relationship.
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In many marriages, the words we choose to use can hold significant power. This article discusses the impact of three specific words: depression, death, and divorce, emphasizing their potential negative influence according to Christian values. Depression, often stigmatized, is a serious condition that can affect emotional and mental well-being. The importance of open communication and emotional support within marriage can aid in navigating these challenges. Support from a partner, coupled with faith, can create a strong foundation for overcoming struggles. Similarly, the word 'death' carries heavy connotations; the article highlights the importance of maintaining a positive outlook and avoiding discussions that may invite negative thinking. Losing loved ones can deepen the impact of such conversations and frame the reality of life's fragility. The strongest focus is on 'divorce,' which many couples consider taboo. The author encourages the formation of a pact to avoid using this term explicitly, suggesting that refraining from such negative language can help foster commitment and longevity in marriage. This reflective approach invites readers to consider the words they use and their effect on relationships, staying true to Christian principles that emphasize the power of speech. It's a reminder that by consciously choosing language rooted in love, faith, and positivity, couples can strengthen their bonds against the inevitable challenges of life.
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