I never liked her bf
My best friend started dating someone that I just didn’t like. It wasn’t about being jealous or protective… he genuinely never made an effort to get to know me. He never asked me anything about myself, never tried to include me, and it always felt like I was just… there. And once they got serious, she started hanging out with me less and less. What used to be weekly hangouts turned into every couple of months, and eventually, only a few times a year. Now, we don’t hang out at all. It’s like I slowly disappeared from her life and she didn’t even notice.
I miss our friendship more than I can explain. We had so many good memories, so many laughs, late night phone calls, inside jokes things that felt like they would last forever. She was the one person I thought would always be in my life. And it hurts knowing that our bond, something that once felt unbreakable, faded so easily. I still think about her when something reminds me of our old memories, and I still wish things had turned out differently.
Eventually, I just stopped trying. I realized that I can’t force someone to make time for me or to care the way I do. It hurt, letting go of a friendship that meant so much to me, but it hurt even more to keep chasing after someone who didn’t seem to want me in their life anymore. I had to protect my peace.
Now, I’m focusing on friendships that feel mutual, that bring me happiness, effort and connection. I still carry love for her in a small way, but I’ve made peace with the distance. Some friendships end without closure, and that’s okay. I deserve to be surrounded by people who truly want to be there not just in memory, but in real time.
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