I don’t want to work anymore
Is it okay to want to marry someone who will pay for everything? I ask myself that sometimes, and I wonder if it makes me lazy or unrealistic but honestly, my goal has always been to not have to work 😭I don’t dream of climbing a career ladder or working 9 to 5 for the rest of my life. I’ve always just wanted a peaceful life where I could take care of the home, focus on things that bring me joy, and not have to constantly stress about money or working for it.
I don’t like getting up and going to work every single day. I do it because I have to right now because the little extra income I bring in does help us. It gives us more freedom when we travel, and it helps cover some small bills. But if it were up to me, I wouldn’t clock in again. I’m exhausted from doing it, and deep down, I know this isn’t the life I want to live long term.
My husband pays for 85% of our bills. He covers our mortgage, my gas, and every single date night. He takes care of so much, and I ’m grateful for that. Whatever I make goes toward things like our phone bills, random Amazon orders, and spending money when we go out or travel. He never pressures me to contribute more and he’s always reassured me that he’s happy to carry the bigger load.
Sometimes I feel guilty about it. I see how hard he works, and part of me wonders if I should be doing more. But the truth is, I just really don’t want to work. I don’t enjoy it, I don’t feel fulfilled by it, and I’m not chasing a career.
In a world that constantly pushes independence and hustle, I’ve realized it’s okay to want something different. My dream isn’t built around career goals it’s built around ease, comfort, and living a soft life. I want a life where I don’t have to worry about paychecks, where I can rest, create, care for our home, and focus on what makes me happy.
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I absolutely understand your side. Everyone has their own views of the dream life they’d want to live and having a partner that supports the same dream for you is a must! I currently the past year have been a stay at home gf. Which sometimes gets embarrassing to say, I feel to be a sah and it be “acceptable” nowadays you have to be married or have to have kids, but that’s just not how my relationship has worked out. I left my job a year ago due to his request (we were having problems but since have worked them out) but he didn’t want me to work. He struggled a little at first and I hated staying at home since I’ve been working since I was a very young kid. But the more we learned our own routine we have made it work. I am able to be at peace (the jobs I worked stressed me out so much it affected my moods at home etc.) our relationship has grown more and I am not required to clock in everyday. Although I have big dreams of owning my own business he happily supports me growing my own business, but I do it slowly due to only having one income. I do small jobs but not everyday work so he’s not stressing on giving me my everyday run around money. The jobs are usually with my family’s company or just side jobs from home and this lifestyle has absolutely worked for us. Despite the judgement I get from not working I usually am not viewed as a “lazy” unless they just do not understand.