From personal experience, dealing with an ex who contacts you despite being with someone new can be emotionally confusing and painful. Many of us hold onto hope that their outreach signals reconsideration or a chance to rekindle the relationship. However, as highlighted in the shared message, this behavior often reflects their attempt to keep options open rather than genuine commitment. It's important to establish clear boundaries for your own mental health. The dynamic where your ex reaches out to 'test the waters' or maintain emotional control can leave you feeling stuck in a cycle of hope and disappointment. Applying a 'no contact' rule in this situation is vital — it helps you regain your power and gives you the space to heal without mixed signals. Attachment styles such as avoidant or dismissive avoidant can also play a role in why an ex keeps reaching out unpredictably. Awareness of these patterns can help you better understand their behavior and reinforce why sticking to no contact is necessary. If you've experienced this, remember that you deserve respect and clarity. Continuing to interact with someone who juggles relationships is emotionally draining and often unfair. Instead, focusing on your own growth and self-worth can lead to healthier relationships in the future — with partners who are fully committed and honest. Healing from such situations may feel difficult initially, but reconnect with friends, pursue interests, and engage in self-care routines to rebuild your confidence. Remember, ending contact with an ex under these circumstances is not about bitterness; it’s about self-respect and creating a foundation for your happiness moving forward.