Difference belief

When we hear someone's beliefs that are not the same as ours, there is a small feeling immediately inside - resistance, frustration, or even a rush to defend what we previously believed. This feeling is common to humans because we often associate belief with our identity.

But if we really want to be good listeners, especially in important relationships, we need to learn to "put our beliefs outside" for a while.

Deep Listening does not mean agreeing with everything the other person says, but opening up the inner space wide enough so that the other person's voice enters without being blocked from our own belief frame.

When we do this, we discover that their beliefs do not attack us, but a window that allows us to see the world as they look, and more importantly, that we can experience their feelings, not just hear their words.

Imagine a time when a friend, lover or family is telling a story that he believes strongly, even if it does not match our thoughts. If we choose to shut down, he will feel judged and isolated. But if we choose to listen to it without blocking our identity, he will feel safe, feel that there is a space where his voice is valuable, and there it is, the relationship will be linked by real understanding.

This kind of listening is a gift we give to others, and at the same time a gift we give ourselves, because it gives us the knowledge of transcending personal beliefs for a while, to learn and grow from seeing the world of others.

So the next time you hear a belief that doesn't match you, take a deep breath and ask yourself, "Am I listening to an argument... or am I listening to understand?"

Choosing the latter answer may be the beginning of a deeper and more beautiful relationship than you expected.

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