Heal Jai VS deceived himself
"Heal yourself," or just force.
"Fooling yourself" to be happy?
In an age when everyone says,
"Add it up. It'll be fine."
The question is, we really heal the heart.
Or just closing your eyes to see the pain?
The difference that many people don't know
Healing is not a forced smile.
But it's to "admit it hurts" without blaming yourself.
While deceiving yourself to be happy.
Often comes in the form of
• It's okay to break my heart.
• I'll pass. I haven't cried yet.
• Must be strong when you want to rest
Psychologists call this Toxic Positivity.
Forcing yourself to be positive all the time to block negative emotions that should be "listened to."
Susan David Research (2016)
It is pointed out that pressing negative emotions does not make us happier, but increases stress and anxiety in the long run.
What kind of face does Heal look like?
• Dare to admit, "I'm not okay now."
• Allow yourself to be sad, tired, or disappointed.
• Do not rush yourself to heal quickly
• Don't compare your own wound to anyone.
Carl Rogers, a humanist psychologist, said:
"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change."
When we can accept ourselves,
The change then began.
How do we know if we're Heal or you're fooling yourself?
Ask yourself,
Do we really give you space to feel, or do we just drown it out with the word "must be strong"?
Being happy.
It doesn't have to. It doesn't hurt.
But not leaving yourself on a painful day.
According to
• Susan David (2016). Emotional Agility.
• Carl Rogers - Humanistic Psychology
• Toxic Positivity (Psychology Today)