Pregnancy scare…Baby is ok… I am okay…

I’ve been quiet for a few days before today because we had a scare… and it shook me in a way I wish I could explain.

If you’re close to us, please know we didn’t keep it from you out of distance or secrecy. When you have trauma tied to pregnancy, your body reacts before your words ever can.

You freeze. You panic.

You do whatever you have to do to get through the moment. We went into survival mode, we just needed to act.

We weren’t hiding. We were terrified.

And tonight, with my hands still shaking as I type this, I can say:

I’m okay. Baby is okay. We’re safe.

Still… it brought up a lot. More than I wish it did. My PTSD has been sitting right at the surface.

As many of you know, with Sol I was told everything was fine…and then everything changed overnight.

I delivered her, and we lost her the next day. 💔

This week dragged me right back into that room.

That moment.

That feeling of believing we were safe… only to lose everything.

I’ve been fighting memories that don’t care that this is a new pregnancy. I’ve been trying to breathe through fear that doesn’t listen to logic.

I’ve been doing everything I can to stay present while my body remembers trauma louder than anything else.

Pregnancy after loss isn’t just “anxiety.”

It’s reliving one of the worst days of your life every time something feels slightly off.

We’re okay.

But I am still coming down from a place I never wanted to return to.

We are still moving with hope… for now it is that baby is healthy… and as of today my body is doing well giving this baby a safe place to grow 💜🫶🏻 #pregnancyafterloss #pregnancyscare #pregnancyjourney

2025/11/26 Edited to

... Read moreExperiencing a pregnancy scare can be a deeply unsettling moment, especially for those who have endured pregnancy loss before. For many women journeying through pregnancy after loss, the emotional landscape is fraught with heightened anxiety and vivid memories that surface unexpectedly. It's important to understand that these fears are not simply anxiety but are often linked to complex trauma and PTSD that can resurface throughout pregnancy. When faced with a scare during pregnancy, the body’s natural response can be an intense survival mode reaction — freezing, panicking, or acting before fully processing the situation. This response is common when past trauma is involved, as the nervous system is wired to protect us from perceived danger, even if that perception stems from past experiences rather than present reality. Support systems play a crucial role during such times. Open communication with loved ones, healthcare providers, and support groups focused on pregnancy after loss (#pregnancyafterloss) can help validation of feelings and reduce isolation. Connecting with others who understand the unique challenges of moving forward after loss provides emotional strength and reassurance. Moreover, mindful practices such as controlled breathing, meditation, and trauma-informed counseling can aid in managing PTSD symptoms. These approaches help keep focus on the present moment, counteracting the body’s instinctive pull to relive past traumatic events when faced with uncertainty in the new pregnancy. Physical health monitoring is equally vital. Regular check-ups with obstetricians who respect and understand the emotional complexity of pregnancy after loss can help in reassuring the safety of both mother and baby. Technologies like ultrasounds and fetal monitoring provide tangible updates that can soothe fears logically and emotionally. It’s also critical to recognize and respect personal boundaries in sharing experiences related to pregnancy fears. Trauma interlaces with individual coping mechanisms, and each pregnancy journey is unique. Thus, patience and self-compassion are necessary, fostering gradual rebuilding of trust in the body’s ability to nurture the new life. Lastly, including emergency awareness, such as an “ERGY ALERT,” signals readiness to respond swiftly in case of complications. This preparedness can empower expectant mothers and families, giving a sense of control amid unpredictable situations. In essence, pregnancy after loss is a profound journey of resilience, hope, and healing. While scares may trigger intense emotions and memories, they also present opportunities to practice courage and embrace each moment of progress and safety. For those navigating this path, know that your feelings are valid, your fears acknowledged, and your hope justified as you move toward welcoming new life.

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Cecilia Robles

🥰 praying for you and your baby 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼. It’s in the Lords hands and everything will be fine!

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JCRocFaith87

I’m praying for you