He loves fighting me.

From my experience, when someone seems to love fighting, it's often a sign of deeper emotional needs or unresolved issues. It's not just about the argument itself, but what lies beneath — feelings of being unheard, misunderstood, or seeking connection in a complicated way. In my own relationships, I noticed that the fights often started over small triggers but escalated because both parties felt defensive. What helped was learning to pause and ask myself why the fight was happening: Was it fear, frustration, or something else? I found that open communication and setting boundaries were key. Instead of engaging immediately in the fight, acknowledging the emotions involved and expressing my feelings calmly helped de-escalate tensions. Also, understanding that some people express love or attention through conflict was eye-opening; it’s not ideal but can be part of their way of connecting. If you feel like your partner loves fighting, it might help to reflect on the patterns and triggers, and consider couples counseling if needed. Fighting itself isn’t the root problem—it’s often a symptom of deeper communication and emotional challenges that, when addressed, can actually strengthen the relationship.