I’m falling in love 😩
Y’all omg this man has taken over my head and heart 🥺
My last relationship was long and miserable and I didn’t realize I was extremely unhappy until it was too late. I was married for 2 years and I ignored that I was so unhappy with my ex husband that my body had to start rejecting everything about him for me to finally call it quits. He treated me like I was going to stay forever even though he never paid attention to me, had no job, played video games all day, and treated me poorly. I wanted a partner that was my equal or better and he was not. I wanted a partner that would provide and sometimes spoil me, that showed me affection, and did the little things without being asked. I knew I needed to leave but my heart said “maybe he’ll change this time” but he never did. After the 4th broken promise of change, I had finally had enough and asked for a divorce.
Then a couple weeks after ending my marriage, I found this man. He is the man of my dreams so far. He works long hours every day (sometimes on weekends too), he’s constantly showing me affection when I’m with him, and he has already spoiled me 🥺 He does little things like turning my seat warmers on in the car when it’s cold outside, holding doors open for me, moving me away from the edge of the side walk, and holding my hand in the car while he’s driving (sometimes he’ll sneak a kiss on my hand too) 😭 He is on my mind 25/8 and I think I’m falling in love with him 😫 I haven’t been this happy in a relationship ever and I’m here for it all ❤️
It's easy to feel like you'll never find happiness again after going through a painful heartbreak or a long, difficult marriage. I certainly did. The thought of 'rediscovering love' felt impossible, a dream for someone else. But what I've learned is that healing takes time, and sometimes, the most unexpected joy can bloom right when you least expect it. Looking back, my previous relationship was a masterclass in 'red flags' I ignored. He never paid attention, lacked ambition, and treated me poorly. It took my body literally rejecting the situation for me to finally realize: this isn't what love is. True love isn't about constant compromise or hoping someone will change; it’s about finding someone who genuinely elevates you, someone who sees you, cherishes you, and actively contributes to your happiness. For anyone wondering about the 'success or failure of relationships,' I can tell you that success often means knowing when to walk away from what's not serving you. Then, when I least expected it, someone incredible walked into my life. And let me tell you, it's the 'little things' that truly make the difference. It's not grand gestures every day, but the consistent, thoughtful acts that say, 'I see you, and I care.' Like having your seat warmers turned on before you even get in the car, or a hand squeeze in traffic. These moments build a foundation of deep affection and show that you're truly valued. It’s in these moments that you can't help but just stare and think, 'He's my person.' You find yourself mesmerized by everything about him – his face, his smile, his eyes, his voice. It's like his voice becomes your favorite song and his eyes become your favorite painting, as one thought perfectly puts it. Finding 'your person' isn't just about chemistry; it's about finding someone who consistently shows you respect, affection, and makes you feel safe to be yourself. It’s a feeling of contentment and deep admiration that you want to hold onto for the rest of your life. If you're currently navigating heartbreak, don't lose hope. Focus on healing, rediscovering yourself, and trust that when the time is right, your own 'dream man' or 'dream woman' will show you what true, unconditional love feels like. It's a beautiful journey, full of unexpected joys.
