I got the worst creative coaching advice
"Creativity is such an act of masterb*tion on it's own. You need to connect with your audience."
You read that right. This was the advice I received from a coach recently.
(For context: my question specifically was about writer's block and working on two different genres of writing projects.)
And while I wholeheartedly agree that coaching can be integral to the growth process for all professionals (yes, even coaches have coaches and I'm no different), this is possibly the worst advice I have ever heard regarding the creative process.
If you're creating for the purpose of a transaction, such as:
🤝 taking part in community
💼 networking
💰 exchanging your creation for money
🫶 social change
then, yes by all means, don your marketing hat and we'll cheers to all the creative ways you can connect with your audience in order to bridge the gap between what you make and who it's for.
But this is a huge problem for creatives. Because when we create ONLY for the other, we get lost in the performance over the craft.
The state of flow does not exist simply for the purpose of self-gratification. (Let's face it, if it did, there would be countless products to artificially engineer this for productivity.) Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi's research on flow encompasses "the positive acts of the human experience--joy, creativity, the process of total involvement with life". Your experience is just that--YOURS. And while ownership of this is a radical response to a world so taken by hustle culture, it certainly gives "saying no to make room for yes" a whole new meaning.
Just as so many great writers have said, "write what you know," the act of creation is the synthesis of everything you are and doing so fearlessly. It takes a lot of courage to fiercely curate a life worth living and one that inspires you.
The relationship you have to your innermost self is crucial to the creative process because it is an act of self expression. So, trusting your inner voice (including when to disregard irrelevant or downright unhelpful advice) is a crucial part of the creative process. And having a good coach that knows how to listen and help you tune into this voice doesn't hurt either. 😉
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