🚶‍♀️ Away, If They Say These Things

If you walked away from a

toxic, negative, abusive,

one-sided, dead-end

low vibrational

relationship or friendship

— you won.

2024/5/3 Edited to

Toxic relationships can have detrimental effects on mental and emotional health. If someone says, "I don't want to hurt you," it often indicates they are aware of their harmful behavior. Similarly, phrases like "You're too good for me" can be red flags, suggesting that the person has already made a decision about your worth in their life. Such statements serve as excuses to absolve themselves from responsibility for the relationship's issues. It's crucial to recognize these signs early to protect yourself. Remember, your well-being matters, and walking away from any negativity can lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Relationships should enrich your life, not deplete you. Making the decision to leave can be difficult, but it's a significant step toward self-empowerment and creating positive spaces for yourself. Don't ignore the warning signs; trust your instincts and give yourself permission to walk away from what no longer serves you.

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Pinkmoon

Maybe I posted in the wrong place.

Pinkmoon

In my opinion: women do not discuss abuse in their marriages around the conversation table. I would never say anything about what was taking place behind my closed door. Honestly I tried once -my sister listened for a bit but, made it clear to me that my husband was part of the family and he is and always will be welcomed. OMG!! I never tried to reach out for help again. Years went by and the abuse continued- the treatment got worse- the verbal abuse severe- I have no one to talk to about this insane abuse. I was going crazy only soon to replace feeling crazy with feeling responsible for my failed marriage. After years and years of the abuse- I started to sink into a deeper depression and this affected friendships- work- thinking process- binge eating- depression so, I decided that I was not worth the time and effort it would take to fix me and gave up and in. I just went into a survival mode ( lack of motivation and agreed to what ever he was telling me- cook clean -sleep- stay out of trouble. 🥺 The problem didn’t matter to me anymore. The words didn’t hurt the same- the doing without was hard- the physical abuse was the worst fear I had. I was traumatized in my early teens which caused PTSD - every time I felt fear if abuse I was triggered. I started fighting back- I was no longer in control of my actions- I was in fight or flight. ( he would take my phone-car keys -block door way so I could get out )so I started picking up heavy things lead Crystal vase- throwing it at him- destroying anything I could get my hands on - one time he pushed me into the laundry room door and I fell backwards- that was the last time he put his hands on me. This is unacceptable behavior for either one of us to be doing to each other. Where and how do you get out? Shelter? I have a dog- this is the one thing that keeps me going my dog. If you can understand those words- you know what I mean. How can I get out and afford to live. I would be in fear everyday.

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