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when the argument flips + you become the villain

you brought facts.

you stayed calm.

you addressed the issue directly.

somehow… you ended up apologizing.

that’s not miscommunication.

that’s darvo.

deny.

attack.

reverse victim + offender.

emotional whiplash works because it hijacks empathy. it turns your self-awareness against you and shifts the focus from the harm to your reaction.

save this so you can come back to it the next time the pivot happens.

read the full breakdown in musing no. 80 at cuffedmedia.com

— author

#emotionalintelligence #relationshipdynamics #manipulationtactics #selfawareness #psychology

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I agree 😭 I agree 100%. I’m going to keep my ground

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