Black Woman Matter
You wanna be my sis when its trending. This African American history month babe i ain't tendin. Take that fragile stuff somewhere else. I cannot educate or validate anyone at this point. My melanated Goddesses we are being gaslit and we are being labeled in all forums, but the ones who truly care will take accountability and responsibility and listen in that order. The ones that were not meant for you will reveal the superiority complex, shut you up and beg for validation in the midst of your experience. As Black women we are exposed and subjected to micro and blatant aggression on a daily basis that a lot of us can only make it to work and back. We are tired of explaining ourselves in this day and age. If you know you know at this point and if you don't you don't. My focus is recovery from the racism that not only comes from strangers, but also family, friends, recovery forums and the work force. I am recovering from people taking my gifts and returning nothing. Recovering from the gaslighting and mistreatment. People want to be my friend as long as I am silent, lets see who stays when the moments get real and their racism is triggered. Will they take accountability or make it somehow my issue to fix for them. To validate them. I have never been more strong in my voice, sorry I burst the bubble of superiority and perfection with the waves of truth. Sorry you weren't strong enough to absorb the truth. That's all I can give you. Recovery from systematic racism does not look like silence or coddling racist behavior. My tone is not soft it is firm and I speak from research and facts. Do your own research and see how many of these recovery forums and denominations were built to keep the oppressed quiet and keep the oppressor in power. This is going to be a trigger for many as it was yesterday, however, the response was on brand and expected. I would love and would welcome an unexpected response. A response that shows true humility and care for us. Until then my response will always be firm and clear. If you take that as aggressive that is on you and you are part of the problem. If you are looking to be validated in your behavior you are looking at the wrong person. If you are ready to hear the truth, take accountability for how you have contributed and learn I'm your girl. Let's talk about. ✊🏾🙌🏾💃🏾
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Reflecting on the experiences shared in this article, I’ve come to deeply appreciate the resilience required for Black women navigating the intersections of racism and societal expectations. The statement, "We are being gaslit and labeled in all forums," resonates profoundly, as it reveals how often Black women’s realities are dismissed or invalidated even within communities meant for healing and support. From personal experience, I’ve noticed that recovery spaces can sometimes unconsciously perpetuate the same systemic dynamics they aim to heal, making it even more essential to call out these patterns honestly and with firmness. The author’s emphasis on accountability struck a chord with me. It’s a reminder that growth and genuine change start when individuals and communities recognize their complicity and take responsibility for addressing it. This approach fosters healthier conversations, whether in workplaces or social circles, rather than expecting Black women to educate or soothe others at their own emotional expense. Moreover, the discussion about the "superiority complex" some reveal when confronted with uncomfortable truths is something I have witnessed firsthand. It creates a barrier to understanding and solidarity but also serves as a clear indicator of who is truly willing to listen and evolve. The reference to recovery not being about silence or coddling racist behaviors particularly stands out. Healing from racism is not passive; it involves active resistance, boundary-setting, and asserting one’s voice without apology. This is a crucial mindset, especially in a society that often pressures marginalized people to suppress their trauma for the sake of comfort or politeness. Lastly, the call to "do your own research" aligns with the need for self-education rather than relying solely on those affected to provide insights. Empowering oneself through knowledge can diminish misunderstandings and help dismantle oppressive structures more effectively. In summary, the raw honesty and firmness in this article encourage Black women to embrace their strength unapologetically, advocate for accountability, and find genuine recovery amid systemic challenges. These reflections remind me that true allyship requires humility, continuous learning, and unwavering support.