does insecurity ever go away??

It's such a relief to hear others feel this way! I used to think my insecurities would just magically disappear once I found the right person, especially someone who loves me unconditionally. But like you, I've found that even with the most supportive partner, those nagging feelings can still creep up, making me feel insecure around my partner at times. It’s like my brain has this old tape playing on repeat, even when everything is objectively wonderful. I've been on my own journey trying to figure out if these feelings ever truly 'go away,' or if it's more about learning to live with them. What I've realized is that for me, they don't vanish entirely, but I've definitely found ways to quiet them down. One big thing that helps me, especially with insecurity about looks, is shifting my focus. Instead of scrutinizing every reflection, I try to appreciate what my body does for me – allowing me to dance, create, or just hug my loved ones. It’s a slow process, but reminding myself of my strength and capabilities, rather than just aesthetics, has been a game-changer. I also try to curate my social media feed to show diverse body types and positive messages, which helps a lot. Those little moments, like catching my reflection and feeling a pang of embarrassment, are still there, but now I try to counter them with a positive thought or a quick mental reframing. Another thing I've learned is to recognize the signs of my own insecurity when they pop up. Sometimes it's that internal critic getting louder, or becoming overly sensitive to comments. When I feel myself getting defensive or withdrawing, I try to pause and ask myself what's really going on. Is it genuine criticism, or just my insecurity talking? This self-awareness allows me to address the feeling directly rather than letting it escalate. For example, if I'm singing in the car and suddenly feel silly, instead of stopping, I try to laugh it off or tell myself, 'Who cares? I'm enjoying myself!' And communicating with your partner? That's huge. I used to hide my insecurities, thinking they'd be a burden. But opening up, even just a little, has been incredibly freeing. My partner doesn't 'fix' my insecurities, but their understanding and reassurance help me feel less alone. They remind me that their love isn't conditional on me being 'perfect.' It’s about building a safe space where I can be my authentic self, flaws and all. So, do insecurities ever completely go away? Maybe not entirely for everyone. But I genuinely believe we can learn to manage them, to turn down the volume, and to build a stronger sense of self-worth that isn't dependent on external validation or even the absence of those fleeting insecure moments. It's an ongoing journey, but one worth taking for more peace of mind.