My late Uncle Tommy...

Thinking back on my Uncle Tommy, it wasn't just his booming laugh or the scent of the sea that lingered after his visits; it was his quiet, yet profound, wisdom. Being part of the Seafarers International, he lived a life that few of us truly understand—days spent on the vast ocean, facing unpredictable weather and long stretches away from home. These experiences, I believe, were the crucible that forged his unique perspective on life. His saying, 'If you're going to dance around the devil, make sure you got ice cubes,' always stuck with me. At first, it sounded like a quirky old saying, but as I've grown, its depth has become incredibly clear. It’s not just about winning an argument; it’s about preparation, resilience, and understanding the stakes. Imagine being on a ship deck, miles from shore, with a storm brewing. You can’t just start a fight with the elements and hope for the best. You need your 'ice cubes'—your knowledge, your tools, your crew's readiness. This wisdom translates beautifully into everyday life. Before I jump into a difficult conversation or tackle a big project, Uncle Tommy's words echo in my mind. Have I done my research? Am I calm and collected? Do I have a plan? It’s about not just reacting, but being proactive and having the resources, both mental and practical, to navigate challenges. He taught me that true strength isn't about avoiding conflict, but about being equipped to handle it effectively and gracefully. I often picture him, perhaps smiling on a ship deck, sunglasses on, with the vast ocean stretching behind him. He embodied that spirit of quiet confidence and readiness. Whether it was discussing a complex issue or just standing firm on a conviction, he always had his 'ice cubes.' His life in the merchant marine wasn't just a job; it was a school of hard knocks that taught him profound lessons, which he generously shared. Even the mention of a helicopter or someone in a flight suit (from stories he'd tell or photos I'd seen) hinted at a world of high stakes and quick thinking, further reinforcing his philosophy. His memory continues to inspire me to approach life's 'devils'—be they arguments, tough decisions, or unexpected obstacles—with a level head and thorough preparation. Uncle Tommy's legacy isn't just a quote; it's a blueprint for living a resilient and thoughtful life.