没人爱我,我是大傻吗？

I remember staring at my phone, seeing everyone else seemingly loved and cherished, and then looking at my own life, asking myself, 'Am I a big fool?' like the words echoed in my head. That persistent feeling of being unwanted and unloved was a heavy blanket over everything. It wasn't about having a lot of money or a fancy 'Yu'e Bao' account; it was a deep ache that no amount of external success could fix. We often tie our self-worth to how much affection we receive from others. When that love feels absent, it’s easy to internalize it and think, 'Oh, nobody loves me,' as if we're inherently flawed or a 'big fool' for even existing. But here's the truth I've slowly learned: your value isn't determined by someone else's capacity to love you, or whether 'rich people' choose to be in your life. It's an inherent part of who you are, independent of external validation. This journey isn't easy. There were days I truly felt like I was '大傻' (a big fool), questioning every decision, wondering if I was even lovable. But I started small. First, I stopped asking '爱不爱我?' (Do they love me?) and instead began asking, 'Do *I* love myself?' I started treating myself with the kindness I longed for from others. This meant setting boundaries, saying no to things that drained me, and saying yes to activities that brought me genuine joy, regardless of what anyone else thought. Another crucial step was recognizing that sometimes, the feeling of being unwanted isn't a reflection of our worth, but a reflection of the people around us. Not everyone is meant to be in our lives, and sometimes, letting go of relationships that make us feel 'unloved and unwanted' is the most loving thing we can do for ourselves. It's okay if '别人爱不爱你' (if others love you or not) isn't always a resounding yes, because the most important love comes from within. You are not a 'big fool' for having feelings or for experiencing loneliness; you're human. Don't fall into the trap of thinking love has a price tag, that only '有钱人' (rich people) deserve affection, or that your 'Yu'e Bao' balance dictates your lovability. True connection isn't bought. If you're battling these feelings, remember you're not alone. Many of us have felt like that 'big fool' at some point. Start by nurturing your own spirit, celebrating your small victories, and building a life that you love. Slowly, surely, you'll start attracting the right kind of love into your life, not because you've changed who you are, but because you've embraced your authentic, lovable self.