Lessons from oranges and apples

When "Love That Gives" Doesn't Match "The Heart That Needs": Lessons from Orange and Apple

In the relationship world, there is a form of silent tragedy that is often repeated, it is not the loss of love, not betrayal, but "giving what the other person does not want." The story of oranges and apples that you tell is a perfect representation of the pain caused by love that speaks in different languages.

As we look into this conversation, we see two hearts that are sympathetically demanding their own understanding.

Female side view: Love is to listen and respond on the spot.

For her...Love is not a matter of quantity, but it is "attention." She expresses clearly what she wants. (Orange) She even says she has already given the correct answer of this exam, but what she gets back is a whole crate of apples.

In the corner of the recipient, getting what you didn't ask for, even if it was big or costly, it sent a painful signal: "You didn't listen to me." Giving an apple means you're taking your mind big, you choose to fill in the blanks you left behind. For her, an attempt at the wrong point is like failing an exam when you know the line of exams. It's the feeling of being overlooked for real needs.

Male side view: Love is giving up the scoop (even without what she's asking for)

For him...Love is "dedication and sacrifice." He does not neglect her needs. He knows that she craves oranges, but his pain is that he "has no oranges to give."

When he had only an apple, he chose to compensate for that deficiency by giving "all he had," one crate was 100% of his life. While someone else might have given only one orange out of 10 crates (which is 10% of someone else's life), he only hoped that this total dedication would be enough for her to recognize the greatest love a man could give, but he broke his heart when he found that all his love was beaten to someone else's only orange who happened to have what she wanted to fit.

The gap between "good hopes" and "needs"

No one is a criminal in this story, only two people who love each other but communicate in completely different "love languages."

The female side is not wrong to expect a lover to understand and meet her needs honestly; for a stable love is only born of feeling yourself listened to and cared for.

The man is not wrong to give the apple, because he has done the best job of his lover as the resources of his life allow him to run out of nothing.

This relationship reflects the truth that "love is not just a matter of giving the best, it's about giving the right thing to the right person."

Sometimes a hundred percent of effort cannot fill the gap in the heart if it is not a missing piece of the puzzle, and at the same time, if we stick too much to what we want, we may miss the opportunity to see the greatest and purest love hidden in the apple...A crate that someone exchanged with all of his life...