Waiting for him to come back or waiting for time to run out of love...

# Out of love # An unclear relationship # Lemon 8 Howtoo

Stay to wait for him to return to love...Or stay to wait for the time to run out of love?

"Some relationships don't end in saying goodbye, but end in exhaustion that bites the heart, until the day we don't even have the strength to walk out."

In the maze of vague and fragile relationships, the most painful question is often not "Does he still love us?" but the one we have to ask ourselves on the day the smile begins to dry up...Indeed, as we stand here, are we "waiting for him to come back to love" or just "waiting for us to lose our love"?

A whirlpool of "waiting" for something that may never return.

In the early stages of holding someone back, we often fool ourselves with hope, we use a fraction of the attention they have to feed our dying heart, we devalue ourselves, we do everything to be the right person again.

The pain of waiting for him to come back to love is to hang between a sweet past and an empty present, and you become paranoid, observing every message, every eye, every action, just to find a little evidence that he still cares, when in reality his dogma has shouted out loud answers to all the tinnitus.

The truth hidden beneath "patience."

As time goes on, the trauma begins to seep deeper and deeper to the point where you start to realize that he may never be back, but why aren't you going anywhere?

The most honest and cruel answer is this: Because you're not ready to break one plunge.

Choosing to stay in a dead relationship is many times not because we are waiting for him to change his mind, but we are buying time for ourselves. We are letting the heart absorb disappointment, absorb cold one drop at a time. To immunize ourselves, we are trying to accumulate enough pain to the point where the bond is replaced by numbness.

A sign of waiting to "run out of love."

How do you know that the purpose of staying has changed? Note these slowly dying feelings:

Dry Tears: From Ever Crying Fumbled to His Ignorance, Becoming an Unblemished Strapper Feeling, and ultimately to Watching His Action with Empty Eyes

Zero Remaining Expectations: You quit questioning whether he would call, quit looking at when he would return, you learn to live with disappointment until it becomes normal in everyday life.

The silence that replaces it: From ever trying to explain, ever quarreling to demanding understanding, you begin to feel like "just say it," so silence becomes the only shield you have left.

A summary of the painful journey.

Whether you're waiting for him to return today or waiting for your love, one of the things you have to accept is that you're losing every second of your time and identity.

If he returns to love, it may be a miracle, but if he does not return, waiting for himself to lose love is the most traumatic heart survival mechanism. When that day comes, the day you accumulate pain to the full quota, the day his coldness can no longer hurt you, you will walk out on your own without trying, and without a drop of tears.

Are you feeling that you are still waiting for hope, or are you slowly letting yourself feel numb?