The healing girl era requires boundaries.

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... Read moreThe healing journey often involves understanding critical life lessons that help shape our emotional landscape. It’s essential to recognize that attention isn't love and that the bare minimum isn’t effort. Healing is seldom a linear process, and feelings of jealousy do not equate to affection. Moreover, control is not care, and disrespect should never be considered normal. Embracing these truths allows individuals to fortify personal boundaries and step away from toxic dynamics. Developing the ability to say no when necessary protects your peace and fosters a deeper understanding of self-worth. Learning that silence does not always mean peace and that toxicity is far from passion are crucial steps toward maintaining emotional health. Often, people confuse drama with excitement, but true growth comes from creating a space where valuing oneself is prioritized. Gaslighting is never acceptable, as it undermines one's understanding and perception. Active listening is not the same as genuine understanding, making it imperative to seek relationships that offer respect and security without dependency. With these insights in mind, navigating the complexities of relationships can be less daunting and more empowering, leading to a healthier, happier life.

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I watched this video on YT titled (if I remember correctly) “When you stop being available, Everything changes” and giiiiirl this video put everything in terms of relationships, friendships, and family, into perspective for me. It talks about distancing yourself and not draining your energy by giving to those who don’t give back but just want to keep feeding off your energy and thrive when you’re at your at your lowest. Everyone please go watch it, it’s under the channel called “Psyphoria”. I’ve been practicing the art of silence for a week now and it’s helped me in situations where I wanna crash out or be so quick to defending myself, and I just relax, listen to what the other person has to say abt me, and if it doesn’t effect me, I just say “ok” and that’s it cus most of the time there’s nothing more to talk about and if it comes up again, It doesn’t involve me anymore and I let them sit with their issues. It’s brought me so much peace, I don’t feel the need to impress people, I’m more focused on what I need to be doing, and just letting go of any negative feelings I had towards others and forgive them (in my head cus the Lord knows Lol)

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