Choosing your circle wisely.
As a woman, you have to be really careful when choosing your friends, because a lot of women like the aesthetic friends, but they do not value friendship they don’t even know what a real friend is and when I tell you no idea, I mean have absolutely no idea and when you’re unaware of this, you’ll think you have friends When you really just have people who don’t mind having space fillers, like you may be their friend but they’re not your friend they use for you. Also, y’all can do that little boomerang passport thing that girls do when they get ready to leave the country you will be thanking you’re out spending quality time with your friends whole time they’ll only They’re Only there so they can get a video for their stories on social media of y’all doing toast with shots or something but where are those friends when life start lifing and when you lose a part when you lose a job when you’re having financial hardship or going through divorce or have problems with your children I said all this to say be sure that the people you consider friends don’t consider you a friend for aesthetic reasons but in some way, your life impacts their life, because when people don’t find value and you they’ll use you for the things they do find valuable and in this day and age Social media clout, so stop participating before you start evaluating what you really mean to these girls.
After reading about spotting those 'aesthetic' friends, I felt compelled to share more on how I've learned to build genuinely supportive friendships. It's easy to get caught up in the visual appeal, especially on social media, but real connection goes much deeper than a leopard print hat or a perfect toast for the gram. As a woman navigating these dynamics, I've come to understand that true friends don't just show up for the good times; they're the ones who stand by your side when life gets tough. My experience has taught me that the foundation of any strong friendship is genuine connection and support. It’s not about how many likes a shared picture gets, but about the quiet moments of understanding and encouragement. True friends are those who listen without judgment, offer a shoulder to cry on, and celebrate your smallest victories as if they were their own. They make you feel seen and valued, and after a conversation with them, you often feel uplifted, ready to dream bigger. They're the ones who offer positive words to say to a friend, not just when you're soaring, but especially when you're struggling. For those of us who might be a bit shy or find initiating friendships challenging, especially in new environments like a new job or community, remember that everyone craves connection. Start small. A genuine compliment, an offer to help, or simply asking someone about their day can open doors. I've found that showing authentic interest in another person's life, rather than just waiting to be approached, can be incredibly rewarding. It's about being present and investing emotionally, not just physically. It's truly better to have a few friends who truly get you than a large circle of acquaintances. Different types of friendships serve different purposes – you might have a confidante, an adventure buddy, or a mentor – but what they all share is mutual respect and genuine care. My inner circle might be small, but it's mighty. These are the people who will pick you up when you lose a job, walk you through a breakup, or simply share a quiet, comforting moment when you need it most. They are the ones who reveal themselves as true friends during hard times. And how do you tell if someone does not like you, or isn't a true friend? Pay attention to how you feel after spending time with them. Do you feel drained or energized? Do they listen as much as they talk? Do they celebrate your successes genuinely, or do they subtly try to diminish them? These subtle cues are often clearer than any loud pronouncement. Trust your gut. Invest your precious time and energy into relationships that nourish your soul and uplift your spirit, because ultimately, your chosen circle profoundly shapes your life.
