This commentary was published on The Straits Times in my capacity as Sexologist of Singapore Cancer Society on Sat 15 Nov 2025.
Man enough to heal: Redefining masculinity after prostate cancer | The Straits Times https://share.google/YRhdCZznlNvZUogej
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Based on my experience and insights from working with men recovering from prostate cancer, I'd like to share additional perspectives that can help anyone facing similar challenges. Firstly, the emotional and psychological aspects of prostate cancer recovery are often overlooked. Men may struggle with feelings of embarrassment, loss, or uncertainty about their identity after treatment. I've found that involving partners in the healing journey fosters greater understanding and intimacy. Honest communication about fears and experiences can break down misconceptions about masculinity and sexual performance. Secondly, practical steps such as engaging in structured sexual rehabilitation exercises—including the use of medical-grade devices and carefully chosen lubricants—make a significant difference in comfort and confidence. Patience is key; recovery of erectile function may take time, but focusing on connection rather than just performance opens new avenues for pleasure and closeness. Moreover, frequent screening remains a vital preventive measure. Despite fears, regular PSA testing and digital rectal exams are straightforward procedures that can detect prostate issues early, greatly improving treatment outcomes. As men, taking this proactive step signifies not weakness but true strength and self-respect. Lastly, redefining manhood involves embracing vulnerability and caring for one's body without shame. The support groups and exercise programs tailored for prostate cancer survivors provide invaluable community and encouragement, reinforcing that men are not alone in their journey. These experiences have shown me that healing after prostate cancer is as much about nurturing emotional resilience as physical recovery, helping men reclaim their lives and redefine masculinity on their own terms.

