We Do Not Care Report — Global Chapter of Frequent Forgetfulness Member Number 1110111 @justbeingmelani is our founder. Follow and engage @justbeingmelani


Reporting for duty from the Global Chapter of Frequent Forgetfulness. If you've ever conducted a full-scale search mission for coffee you put down "just for a second," bought a 5th pair of glasses while 4 pairs hide in your house, or started calling people by process of elimination because names are apparently a young person's game—you belong here. We don't fix it. We don't apologize. We do not care. Thanks to @justbeingmelani for founding this sacred movement. Follow her. Share your chaos. Report in. 🫡

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2025/9/15 Edited to

... Read moreIf you find yourself frequently forgetting where you put your coffee, losing track of your glasses, or struggling to recall names—even those you've known for years—you are not alone. The Global Chapter of Frequent Forgetfulness is a supportive community that embraces these common experiences, especially among women navigating perimenopause and menopause. These life stages bring unique cognitive challenges such as brain fog, memory lapses, and attention difficulties that can feel frustrating but are completely normal. Being part of this group means acknowledging that memory slips don't define your worth or capabilities. Instead, it is about finding humor and solidarity in the chaos. For example, many members resonate with launching what feels like a "NASA-level search mission" for items left down "just for a second," or the paradox of ordering a fifth pair of glasses while four others hide around the house. These shared experiences help reduce the stigma around forgetfulness and create a safe space to connect. Additionally, this chapter celebrates the creative coping mechanisms developed over time, such as recalling names by process of elimination or labeling grandchildren "eldest to youngest" to keep track. The community encourages women to share their stories openly, fostering a sense of belonging and mutual support. Importantly, this movement counters societal expectations that memory should be flawless at all stages of life and highlights that brain changes during midlife—like those related to hormonal shifts, ADHD tendencies, or stress—are real and valid reasons for forgetfulness. Joining this community also offers an opportunity to learn from others coping with similar challenges and gain practical tips for managing midlife memory struggles. Whether it’s through humor, shared experiences, or practical advice, members find empowerment in accepting forgetfulness rather than feeling ashamed of it. Ultimately, the Global Chapter of Frequent Forgetfulness is more than just a club—it's a declaration of self-compassion and resilience. So if you've ever misplaced your coffee for hours, swapped sugar for salt, or forgotten a neighbor's name despite years of acquaintance, you truly belong here. Embrace the forgetfulness and join the conversation.

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